Girlfriend and me :(

Hi guys. Well, these fews days, me and my girlfriend has been in an upset stage once in a while. She gets upset at me for the little mistakes I do. We text each other everyday. Today, im quite upset and confused. She was taking an evening nap and i told her that nap time will just be one hour, so she can get her studies done later onwards. It was 6:30pm and she was suppose to be awake but she wasnt. I find it cute cuz usually she takes a few more extra minutes to nap more. I wasnt mad, or annoyed. :) I actually find her adorable so I just let her nap without disturbing her by texting many times. After a few minutes of waiting for her, i decided to take a nap as well. For about 30 minutes. I was reli tired and i needed to rest just for a moment. But while i was seriously in a deep sleep, she texted me several times and miss call twice. And I just napped for 30 to 40 minutes. By the time my phone stop ringing, I woke up and rushed to my phone. Her first text said that she had a cold. And then it followed by Hey! and then the next one will be Hello?!?!? Then she told me that I dont have to call tonight anymore. I call her every night and put her to sleep. :) I apologized to her several times. I explained to her that I was napping and was charging my phone at the same time. And then she started to reply saying Im very tired, dont feel like arguing. Just stop. Then I apologized again and told her i wanted to rest just a bit. And she wud reply me saying Stop arguing. Im tired of you. And the cold replies continued while i continued to explain and apologize. She said I was never there for her when she needed me. I apologized and said out everything I have done. I felt reli sorry, but she doesnt seem to see it that way. I said i was wrong and i was reli upset. And I dont know if im defending or is she not being understanding. Im not allowed to say that 'Im Tired today' because of our previous little fight. Then I felt upset and started hating myself for always making her upset and angry. I told her I wont ever nap anymore so i'll be by her side always. And of course i apologized. Am i being a burden to her whenever i make her angry over small things? Shud i continue to explain to her the things i've done wrong in the future? Am i the right one for her? I love her alot. Sometimes I brush off the things she says about me. Sometimes even when Im sleepy, i still stay up late just to talk on the phone with her. I understand her and i never want to hurt her by raising my own voice or scolding her with harsh words. But why is it that she gives me the cold shoulder when i just make a small mistake? She always asked me not to compare. I dont know anymore. We have this little moody nights at least 3 times in a month. Wert's happening? I need your help please. :(

JSKYE - In my opinion if nights like these keep happening with more frequency it's not a good sign. To me it sounds like you are going out of your way to accommodate her and she isn't being fully understanding when you need her to accommodate you. She can't forgive you for not immediately picking up your phone while sleeping, that's wrong. People make simple mistakes like that constantly, and if you're in a relationship that needs to be mutually understood. I feel like if this is weighing down on you and bringing you down then she's doing you an injustice. Try talking to her more about how you feel about things. She can't be the only one that gets to express feelings. For a relationship to work you need to be equals, and right now it sounds to me like she thinks she can push you around, make you over compromise, and punish you emotionally if you do something she deems wrong. If it's a few times a month you can brush it off, but if it is something that bothers you, you shouldn't have to keep brushing it off. Just make sure you realize you have rights, privileges, and needs that should also be met in this relationship. If it continues and gets worse you should start weighing your options, especially if she doesn't listen to you when you try to talk.

Hey JSKYE - depends 3 times a month at separate times or all at the same time? If at the same time you need to think that it could just be hormones, but for goodness sake don't say that to her! If it's at different times then I personally think she is being incredibly petty and controlling. You cannot possibly be there 24/7 as you have your own life to lead. if you're tired you're tired. Why is it OK for her to have a nap but not you just in case she needs you? Have read your post? Are you taking in mine and realising how ridiculous her little tantrums are? STOP apologising you have absolutely nothing to apologise for and stop appeasing the woman. She doesn't deserve it. And what, pray tell, does she actually do for you? Gawd, you're tying yourself up in knots to please her while all the while she's moving the goal posts so you can never catch up. I think you need to wake up to the fact that she is quite manipulative and could end up a very lonely person because I'm guessing you aren't allowed friends...just in case she needs you. Come on. You have your own things to do as does she and if she cannot accept you are your own person then you so know what I'm gonna say...