Does he really love me?

I am engaded to the man of my dreams, but it all worked out in reverse, we were friends (with benefits) and then after one great evening I fell pregant. At first he did not want to have any kind of relationship and before I know it we were living together. Just before I gave birth to our daughter he cheated on me I found it out one morning before work when he left his phone at home. Since then I have forgiven him but I still wonder when he will do it again. We are engaded and to get married this october. But the last couple of months has been weird we don't do stuff togehther anymore we don't have any intamate moments and even our sex live is up to crap. I do everything in my power to please him but in the process I am hurting myself. I can't help to start wondering if he really loves me or is it because of our dauhter that he is with me. How do I decide what to do?

The fact that he cheated on you just prior to your daughter's birth tells you everything. If you "still wonder when he'll do it again", then there's your answer. Why bother pleasing him when you state, you're hurting yourself? It's time to find a happy and stable environment for your daughter, somewhere where you'll be appreciated for who you are.

I can't find the basic link here for being together - Love. You both just seem to be with each other for your daughter. That won't work out for long. He is probably with you coz he feels guilty leaving you at this stage in your life and probably feels some responsibility towards his daughter too. Work on the Love aspect if you want to stay with him. If working on that is hurting you then its better to break off and find someone else. What hurts won't stay forever....which means a stage will come when you won't want to please him.

hi your opening is \'engaged to the man of your dreams\' I think it started out like he was keeping you at a distance ..... no relationship. I do not know you but you deserve to be treated better and so does your daughter. He can still have a relationship with her, even if you separate. Too many people stay in negative stagnation in relationships, love never ever makes you feel uncertain and insecure, like you sound. We get one life, get away fast and love you. That is the most important relationship is with you and your daughter. You have massive insight into your situation which is something to build on. You choose who you are tomorrow, its this simple love grows.......