Update on seperation

So I have written a few times on here about my separation with my wife...Its been going on for a little over a month now and one day it seems like we have a chance together then the next day it seems like it is truly over...Well I listened to a lot advice I received on here like distancing myself from her and avoid talking about our separation. Well I did that and then all of a sudden she began to text me more call me more..i started going to the gym again going out with friends and just trying to be happy through this hard time...it seemed when I did that she was getting almost angry or jealous when I started going out more and when I stopped talking to her about us...the only time I talked to her was about our daughter. She then one night went out with her best girlfriend..her girlfriend called me and told me what she had said..she told her that she doesn't want a divorce and would like to eventually work things out and it dawned on her one day that she didn't understand what she was doing right now!! There is this guy she works with that apparently has continually asking her out and they have hung out a few times..i even caught her the one night with him at her brothers house where she is staying...for people who have read my past posts you know the deal about this guy...well today she asked me to go have a few drinks with her after work and we did and she seemed happy but still playing the hard to get game...after she went home with our daughter and a few hours went by I called her and she seemed ok...well she then texted me and said she was in a bad mood...I asked her why she said I don't know...I continued to ask her whats wrong cuz I really care about her and she just kept saying nothing happened and that she just isn't happy she doesn't feel like herself and she is just lost...first thing that popped in my head is this guy is texting her and causing problems..maybe because she was wth me?? Well finally she admitted he was texting her...so I had to ask her cuz I couldn't help myself I said u need to tell me the truth did you two hook up? she kept saying stop we will meet tomorrow and talk in person and I insisted she just gives me a yes or no answer..but she wouldn't say yes or no if they hooked up she just kept saying we will talk tomorrow...so I am worried now that she might have slept with this guy and she is finally gonna admit it...it seems like she wants to work on us and she finally wants to lay it all out on the table for me and then I can decide from there if we will work out or not...in my head I don't know if shes gonna tell me they hooked up or not but I am prepared for the worse since she didn't deny it...If she tells me they did hook up I still care about her and love her that I feel that I could look beyond it and eventually stil work on us, but before I would ever fully commit back to her I need to feel like I can trust her again..any input on this problem its driving me nuts???!!

Hey you did a great job there by controlling yourself! I know it was difficult for you to do so but see its turning in the positive for you! There is no doubt that this other guy is confusing her but she desires to choose you over him. She is indirectly asking for your support. Keep being the caring person. Keep your anger and suspicions under control....don't spill all that out on her. From what you have said, I understand your wife is an honest person. She left you in the first place because this guy has been confusing her and she didn't want to play a double game. When she felt she was loosing you it probably dawned on her who is more important to her. The interference from the other person is causing her to dilly dally. Now what you need to do....keep your anger and emotions in control, prepare mentally for the worse and continue to be the caring person towards her. If she decides to get back to you I don't feel she will cheat you. If she wanted to cheat you she could have easily done it without breaking away from you. Wish you all the best!