I've had enough what do I do now?

HI..I have had enough of watching my husband eat and eat and be on medication, go to the doctors every week...and continuing to eat and eat and be lazy at home, and ect he buys cigs and alchol,,when we need healthy food...and he ignores bills...he tries some times and we all say thank you.. we have a teenage son. who helps a lot but now I am so exhausted,,i have given up,,,and it sicken me to see him NOT look after him self...he is hopeless to talk to, and is a big sook,,,,,what do I do..

Whats the matter with him? Is he depressed or has a disorder?

I think your husband is telling you something, what only he knows. This behavior is a symptom of something OTHER. Is there something between the doctor and him he has not told you? He is pushing something down , instead of putting words on, by feeding and mood altering substances. This is a coping mechanism. I think you need to talk to him , big time. doctors give out meds to easily theses days as a answer to a issue. Your husband is suffering, he is not ready to face this. I would go and see a health professional yourself and ask for support in dealing with this, because it will take it's tole on you. One thing you could do is take over the shopping budget , buy only healthy stuff. He will not like this and be prepared you will come up against resistance alot, you are taking away his dummy and it will be like a weaning. I am sorry you have to go through this , but he is telling you something, big .

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