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Should I try to revive our relationship?

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Recently, my girlfriend has broken up with me because she feels that she doesn't feel "the love" between us anymore. She cried right after she told me and was very hard for her to tell me this. We have been together for almost 2 years, and since this spring semester of college, we have not seen each other much. I will be honest and say I feel like its my fault for not putting as much effort into the relationship but I honestly do love her. She is smart, pretty, and she is the girl I have been looking for. She is a mechanical engineering major and she is not very social and doesnt really go out or party (which i don't mind at all since I am the same way.) This spring semester she has had to take difficult classes for engineering and I felt like i should give her time to herself to study and all since i didnt want to be the reason she fails her courses. That is why we havent been seeing much during this semester. And every time we had time to get lunch together, she always had appointments or other important school related things to do. Anyways, my point is, since I feel that we lost the "love" between us because I haven't really been seeing her a lot during school, I would want to try and see if she will give me a second chance. Before she broke up with me, she mentioned that she just wanted to focus on school and take a "break" from our relationship and if we could just be friends. I really loved this girl, and been with her for a very long time. Should I go and try to make a second chance with her? How long should I give her "time to herself" before I even consider trying again? Please help me out. Thank you

Should I try to revive our relationship?

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Cisco, she broke it off and therefore she'll be the one to initiate it again. Another thing you need to consider, is to look beyond your excuse for not putting in enough as you feel you should have because if you truly loved this woman, you would have put in continually from day one, regardless if you felt your presence would have influenced the outcome of her success with her studies. Likewise, if she truly loved you, she wouldn't have broken it off with you. Instead, you guys would have sorted your relationship hassles with communication...you would have worked it out rather than find yourself where you are now. When/if she's ready, she'll come back to discuss things with you. In the meantime, get on with your life.

Should I try to revive our relationship?

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Sorry for how thhis might sound but it wasn't you if she told you the need to focus on her classes to begin with she was feeling differently then. You did what she asked and by doing so you lost her. I agree with the other guy to move on. She has probably moved on already from what you said in your post. Best of luck!

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