I can't deal with this anymore. Help

I started seeing him when he was breaking up with his ex girlfriend and I knew she's having his baby too. I thought im going to date him For a while and see if he will be single or is it worth it to see him at all. Months after months i was seeing him we were spending time Together and with his and mine friends But we never go out just me n him because he was kind of hiding me because he just broke up. Everyhing seems to be ok, we started having sex, he liked me i liked him everyhing was ok but then we started arguing coz of hiding me, why we never go out what he wants from me, i was about to leave him million times but he never let me go, he always fight for me. Today are 8 Months how we r together, i met his parents once recently, but not his sisters though. he has a baby with ex but he says he loves me and I believe him. But he doesn't want his ex to find out about us because in case she won't let him see a baby. I think thats why he won't ask me to be his girlfriend yet. It's been 8 months and Im fed up Of waiting i don't want put pressure on him and make troubles but is it worth to be with a man like Him? I love him and want to be with him but he gave me so much pain and tears through it and I just can't deal with this anymore. What do you think I should do?

I read from your post that this is hurting you so much...... then..... it is a sign this is not good for you..... this relationship is not meeting your needs. You are put on hold and put off . This is his shit...... he has fear around not seeing his kid.... I would see a solicitor if I was him.... to arrange access to his child. He is doing nothing wrong by doing this. I think the issue is not the child really I think he is treating you not well and you deserve to be with someone who is proud of you not hiding you like a mistake . Is it possible he is still seeing this other girl also which would explain his fear of you being revealed ...... I would walk away from this situation..... think of the less stress you will have in your life....and all the hassle you are about to face with this man..... move on find a guy who is proud to have you on their arm.... Any guy who see's you so so soon after a breakup with someone else is using you as an escape route, to make it all a little easier on himself..... you are getting the tail end of their relationship ... most likely he is acting out with you what was lacking in his relationship.... as an attempt to resolve it psychologically/ emotionally for him. You won't be the first and the last girl to experience this situation it is part of life. All you need to know is how to learn from it and avoid it in the future. This relationship can only go so far..... I think it has reached its limit...... You got caught up in someone else's storm...... kind people usually do...... I know it may feel nice and make up for things when he 'fights' for you... and gives you the validation that is lacking here.... This time fight for yourself!!!! He will not change and will not become who you need and want..... the very reason you know what you need and want is by knowing what you do not want and you are there now with him...!!!!! Don't get bogged down by this ......bring yourself peace by not hiding anymore.... step out and crab hold of the life you deserve....you are in the wrong place...... You know it...... he knows it.....

Mija, your BF doesn't think enough of you if he's hiding you away. He doesn't respect you for who you are and what you are to him. He basically has no right and you need to understand that you have a choice whether you want to be treated this way and remain in this situation. It's HIS responsibility and his alone to sort his issues with his ex. Your only issue is to decide if you want to be treated like a doormat. One things certain, it's only a matter of time before his ex finds out about you...and your BF is being very immature and extremely unfair to you, to say the least, if he thinks he can deal with his problems with his controlling ex by being secretive. Ask yourself where you be if you were with a man who respected you and put you first with everything rather than with someone who lets his inability and lack of confidence to sort his issues, intrude into your relationship with him.