Hopelessly in love

I'm head over heels in love with a guy who I shouldn't love as much as I do. He's obliviously destroying me. I'm constantly hearing about him being with other girls but when I ask about it and he says that everyone else is lying, I can't help but believe him. That's the problem I guess, is that I know in my head that I don't believe him, but my heart tells me he wouldn't do that to me. I know I don't need him, but the desire for him to be who I've created in my head is so strong. Plus, I'm leaving for college in August and I know he won't go with me. I can't trust him while I'm away. I don't want to love him anymore. But then again I do. I know everyone says "if you want to change anything about someone, they're not the person for you" but it seems like such a small thing to ask for. Loyalty. I don't know what to do.

If you can't trust him, then it was never meant to be. Your leaving in August to attend college is one of the best things that could happen to you given your circumstances. Follow your instinct with this guy, because it's always right. Your heart will only get you into trouble if you ignore your head.

Okay, so I\\\'m kind of going through the same thing right now... So I feel you! He\\\'s obviously sending you some mixed signals. It could just be that he\\\'s not man enough to handle a relationship yet... I\\\'ve known some guys to not reach maturity until they\\\'re like 30 years old. It\\\'s sad, but it\\\'s in their nature. I suggest you tell him how you feel, or leave! If he truly cares for you, he will chase after you. You deserve someone who really cares about you, so go for it and good luck.

Sometime back I happened to watch an interview of a cheater who took great pride in saying how he used to handle multiple girlfriends at the same time. He used to maintain 3 mobiles. Each girl would have a different no. All dates would be planned in advance. In case any one girl had a doubt about him cheating, he would turn around and accuse her of trust issues and thereby emotionally blackmail her. Eventually she would end up feeling guilty about accusing him! Such guys do exist...please be careful.

They certainly do exist ....... it is a head game.... Stay away from guys for some time..... when you go in August say goodbye to him.... doubts like that do not go away.

Dear One your very much in love that is for sure- you certainly appear to be half way to sorting things out- Your smart and have recognized the truth these are all attributes of a strong woman. You are a strong woman to have come this far and faced the truth. Now is the time for action! Now is the time to be loyal to yourself! a)seperate yourself from the situation. b) write down 5 attributes that MUST be present in your ideal mate. c)write down 5 things that CAN NOT be in your ideal mate d) visualize your life with man wonderful e) right down the way he would treat you in 3 different challenges you have recently faced f) visualize your life with man impossible g)right down the way he would treat you in the same types of circumstances h) ask yourself which one of these men do you want to be with forever CHOOSE happiness !!! everytime you think of this man in your life- stop in your tracks and look at the reality. Do not allow yourself to daydream he will not change - and you can not change him. You shall meet a wonderful man who will love you and treat you right do not sell yourself short. Look in the mirror when you brush your teeth and say: " thank you God for making me beautiful on the inside and on the outside bring me someone who will cherish me I deserve that. I will be praying for you Sweetie I know its hard

you shouldn't be with him if he makes u fell the way u do