My ex is unintentionally ruining my relationship

Okay, so back in February was mine and my boyfriend's 2-year anniversary. We're both the same age and rediculously in love with the other. Biggest difference? I'm a virgin, he's not. I found out like 2 or 3 weeks ago and it kinda bothered me but I didn't say anything about it. I probably wouldn't even care if it wasn't for an ex of mine. My current is the second non-virgin I've been with, my ex the first. The only reason it affected me is because my ex tried to rape me, so now, I have a fear that my current will do the same. He's never teied to pressure me into it and he's always understanding when I freak out cause it gets too intense for me sometimes. I can tell he gets annoyed when I do that and he wants to keep going. My experience with my ex is ruining my relationship and I'm scared to lose him, but I can't shake the fear of him doing that to me. Please help me before I ruin my relationship.

Why do you have an aversion to having sex? May I ask which country are you from?

Hey never do something you do not want to do.... Have you ever spoken to a therapist about this ? I suggest you do speak to someone.

Simple fact is..your relationships will never work out until you leave your past in the past! Im am dealing with a similar situation now. Sure, bad things have happened. You dated a bad person, like I have before. You have to trust that this new guy wont do the same. Have you considered seeing a therapist to talk about your past?

@Regina - Its not the question of wrongly rating her for higher standards or anything. She says it has been 2 years since she has started dating. Men will not go so long without sex. If sex after marriage is the issue, she should consider marriage seriously with the person of her choice before it gets too late and he leaves the relation (which is why she is asking for help here). But if there is some other underlying issue for aversion to sex it needs to be addressed and fast. @Yasmine - I do not know which country you are from but if you are from a place where sex before marriage is taboo then do consider marriage soon or else you may loose him.