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Can't deny my feelings no more

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Me any my boyfriend have been together almost two years and lived together over a year. I am bisexual and he has known about this since the start of our relationship. I had a very close friend in college and gradually developed feelings for her at the time (she never found out). Then I met my current boyfriend and moved out of area. Recently we have moved into a new house back in that area. Naturally, I have got back in touch with my old friends. I have met up with my old crush (still as a best friend) only to find that my feelings for her have not disappeared. I love my boyfriend very much and I do not know whether I should tell him, stop contacting her, or just do nothing. I do not think that I could hide it any longer though. She is the only true friend that I have had during the last few years and I do not want to loose her by just not contacting her due to this. To say this I have been feeling very lonely for a while, as well as began feeling that I will never receive any support from my boyfriend (that's a separate issue); I basically feel that everything will always be dumped on my shoulders because he will forever carry on claiming that he does not know how to deal with a matter, forget, or simply have no initiative. Any advice is welcome as I really do not know what to do.

Can't deny my feelings no more

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Regardless that you're bisexual, your BF should support you with everything, especially if you've been together for 2 years. Your BF should be your true friend. If your GF is your only true friend, then where does your BF fit in? If you value him and your relationship with him, then you will be upfront with him about the issue. You have trusted him enough to tell him that you're bisexual from the word go, and so he should support you, but you still need to be honest with him now. If you've been feeling lonely then that should tell you just how much support you will get from the man you profess in your post to love very much. And it should also tell you where and with who, your feelings really are at the moment.

Can't deny my feelings no more

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Monogamy?

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I guess some people say also it is not possible to eat one's cake and save it for later also. I guess sometimes some goals in life are mutually exclusive so it is necessary to make decisions. I note that a man called Jesus so that it is good to have faith and I gather he also said that who ever calls upon the name of the Lord will be saved (saved I guess from torment, confusion, anger, sadness, bitterness, aimlessness).

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I think you need to be on your own away from both people. Your relationship with bf I think that is coming to an end..... it is a sign when you start to have feeling s for someone outside of your relationship..... from what you say it looks that way. You best friend that you have feelings for can be heightened by this situation with your fella. something is lacking here in this relationship. You describe her as a true friend to you..... my advice would be to honor that..... true friends are rare....... Get some space on your own and figure this out, because if you do not you are stuck where you are..... or could two tome and loose two people.....

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