Settle down or up and at em'?

Hello forum! I'm incredibly glad to have found you, any advice you could offer would be much appreciated. I request you don't write me off as a s%ut immediately (for that is how I am mentally feeling), please respond with kindness if at all... Uhmm, I'm female, seventeen years of age and entered a relationship with a man a couple of months my senior about 1 year ago. Many, given our age and such palm the very idea of us being in love as 'false' but, i think that's kind of ridiculous. I was entirely obsessed with him at one stage, spending as much time as possible with him and I do love him. I know this. I feel it even when confronted with the idea of him but I'm questioning whether starting university, life, everything next year with him is going to be the best, investment, for lack of a better word. He's a very committed (and beautiful) person. He has those simple (yet wonderful) dreams of a home, a wife and kids and wants those things somewhat immediately. I'm a little different though... I want to travel, I want experiences... I'm not sure if the two mix? I've found myself growing tired of routine lately? Obviously we've exceeded the euphoric period and have entered that love minus the constant butterflies part. nothing wrong with that of course, only natural. But I am seventeen years old, I keep thinking to myself "At this age it's suppose to be all about experience. Can I resign myself to the one person for the rest of my life? He's my first boyfriend... is he going to be my only? Are we right for eachother? Will the routine ness continue? Is this it? The end of romance, the end of infatuation, the end of butterflies?" I know it sounds awful dramatic but honestly... We've been sexually active for a while and it's kind of 'routine', he's not hugely attracted to be anymore, it's routine, we're, routine... And I love him, do not get me wrong, but should I be ceasing every opportunity I can whether it be in romance or education or travel while I'm young? Please help me hey. I've spoken to a couple of close close friends and they've told me they'd have this cross their mind if they were me but I can't help feeling entirely depressed about it. Anything you could contribute would be greatly appreciated, except detrimental comments, that's hurtful (sorry about the obvious paranoia, I had the misfortune of signing up to a korn forum a couple of years back (embarrassing I know) and the people were rude lol) Thank you for reading anyway, I hope England or wherever you are isn't too cold, I'm from Aussieland!

You are not alone in your feelings and confused state, It is called growing up! Of course you love him and of course you want to experience life! both are not mutally exclusive. Why not both of you go off and have some adventures together? Take some time and travel and see abit of the world? Trust me you will either grow deeper together or apart, either way nature will take it's course and will reduce your dilema of having to choose. My one bit of advise is you are too young to settle down! but not too young to find true love. If he is the one he may wait for you, if he does not want to come with you on your journey. Grab on to happiness where you find it, life is defo to short and my view is never regret what you do, but you may regret not doing something like seeing the world.

weve all experienced problems like this and my advice is do what makes you feel happy and whats right for you. uni is a an experience you will enjoy (well the social part at least, the assignments and constant work can be abit of a drag) if he loves you like you love him he will respect any decisions that you make about your life and will hopefully want to join you in your path as you would with his choices. Dont commit to settling down its hard work having kids and if your serious about going to uni and travelling the world it would only make it harder. as for the routine side try and spice it up in the bedroom as well as out of it. do something together that you wouldnt normally do. if he isnt the right person for you then youll find the right one eventually but sit down and talk to him about how you feel and see how it goes from there. but the best advice you can take is your own. as i said before do what is right for you and will make you happy.