Is this a dead relationship?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for five, almost six months now. For the first three-four months he was really insecure and we had a few problems and arguments and such. But now, the tables have turned and now I'm the insecure one. He spends so much time on other people when he's not with me. I know that we're two different people, but he suddenly changes. He's become more distant towards me. I guess, because we've been having too many arguments. And over the past give months, we've had so many 'fake' break ups that it's affecting us. We argue too much. If it's not him starting it, it's me. All I want him to do is take my feelings into a lot more consideration. And to treat me like his girlfriend, not some trash. He's a party animal. He goes to parties occasionally and being the antisocial girl I am, I just stay at home. I tell him I'm not okay with him going to parties.. But he insists on going. And that's fine. I shouldn't stop him from having his own times. The only thing is, I don't want to feel as if he's so vulnerable to girls without me. I would go with him, although he's never asked, but I'm not the type to go out to parties, and I guess.. He's fine with the thought of me going to parties. Cause I never would! And I tell him to cut down on the photos he takes with girls cause they make me feel uneasy. But he insists on it. And he says leave me if you and tolerate it. Just last night, he told me he was having second thoughts about us. And that he wasn't sure if he still loved me or not. I thought it seemed pretty evident that he doesn't. But two hours later, he told me that he knows he loves me 100% and he thinks he's gotten too comfortable with staying with me that he doesn't see the amazing person he's with and what she's doing for him. I was still a little crushed after he said he wasn't sure.. I was honestly wishing for the best but expecting for the worst. Girls are making me crazy, and are making me feel uneasy about my position with my boyfriend. I told him I would not think about it, or even if I did I would keep it to myself. How can I stop acting overly jealous? I understand that we have our own lives. But at the start, I got so comfortable to knowing that he would only talk to me, and that's what he used to do. But now he puts his time into his friends, and other girls. I feel replaced. And I feel worthless. I love him so much.. And I'm nothing without him. But sometimes, well most of the times, I don't see why he wants to stay with me when he's not going to try to make things better. I always have to rely on the internet. I can't rely on him to reassure me. It's like we're a couple who speaks totally different language. There is no communication coming from him anymore. Sometimes I tell him what's wrong and what I want him to be cautious of, and he just says 'kk' or 'um kk' you know, stuff like that. So I ask him. Do you really care about me? And he answers with I've been through too many arguments with you, and you ask why I'm not bothering anymore. He admitted that he's not bothering. I don't know what to do. Obviously I want to stay with him. He's my life. But if I have to suffer in this relationship because he's not doing what he should be doing to be a good boyfriend, then I don't see the point in us. We broke up a few days ago. And I had thoughts of killing myself. I couldn't handle life without him. And I was over the moon when we have decided to try things and try to change our ways. But no.. It feels as if it was the worst thing to do and instead of being better, things have gotten worse. I feel as if he doesn't love me, and he doesn't try with me. I confronted him once, and do you know what he said? Then just leave me. He's becoming heartless towards me.. And it hurts to see how much our relationship means to him - nothing. I want to stay with him. I will be no matter what. We used to always talk to our future together. Settling down, having a family. We're 16. But it's never to early to dream and have goals. And I am determined to make this relationship work. Only thing is.. I need his help and determination too.. Do you think it's still possible? We've been through just sooo much.. And it would kill me to know that this is how it's going to end. Honestly.. I miss the old us. But time changed us. I told him I kind of miss the old him, where he would be there for me no matter what. But he said I'm not the old me and I never will be. We're different now. But you know what? I still see every good thing I saw in him give months ago. He's still my boyfriend. The same boyfriend. People change. I accept that. I just can't accept how quickly his feelings can change.. And. It hurts. I still love him so much.. And it just gets stronger and stronger. I'd rather he leave me than to lead me on.. But if that happened, I don't know what would become of me. I wouldn't know who I am anymore. What can I do..

Hello Lully: I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling so hopeless about life and that your own worth and happiness seems to all depend on his attitude, actions and moods. Can I ask what used to make you feel a sense of purpose and caring and direction in your life? Where are the people you have in your life that care about you. I assume there must be at least someone in your family or your circle of friends that you have had a positive relationship with at some time in your life??? Where is your life headed for the future - training or schooling and work or career. How are you funding your living expenses at this point? If you are focusing on your other friends and interests as well as your life purpose ad future career, you won't have the time to analyze as much what is going on with your boyfriend. He will probably show more interest in you as you also have other parts of your life besides him OR maybe he is just not grownup enough yet to be thinking about how life really is and just wants to play around all the time and do whatever he wants to with no thought of consequences and is not really ready for any committed relationship. As you probably know, it puts way too much pressure on a relationship if one person is depending solely on the other person to be their security and emotional support. Even when people are all grown up, this happens regularly and can totally destroy any relationship. If you have another safe place to go, it sounds like that would be much better for you before you feel forced out or more hurtful things are said to each other. If even thoughts of not wanting to live are entering your mind, please go for help now. Remember also there is a national suicide prevention 24/7 line you can always reach someone live. That number is 800-273-8255. Additionally, you probably also have a local call center or you can go for medical help. Please talk to someone live now.

If your BF was serious, he'd be spending all his time with you..it's that simple. His actions are speaking. Give yourselves some time to grow and mature, then you may see things differently. Take two steps away from your BF and focus on 'positives' in your life. Your BF, at the moment, is a 'negative' who is preventing you from living and discovering life as you should at 16.