Seperated for three months

Need advise. I left my husband three months ago because we have not been getting along for the past year, since he has started a new job that he hates, he has been coming home in bad moods and being mean to me because of it. I couldnt take it anymore and told him he was driving me away. He is slowly starting to send me emails saying some kind words, but I dont know how to work it out with him. We have been married for 9 years. He needs to know that you do not treat a loved one poorly, even when the day went bad. Any ideas on if he may realize what went wrong and want to make it work?

You need to tell him how you feel and help him to feel more relaxed when around you. This job is clearly stressing him out, the distance should help you both to remember what you had, which is hopefully worth sorting it out. If you try to help him to relax when he gets home, leaving the stress behind. Maybe encourage him to join a gym, as the excercise will improve his mood, and so his behaviour towards you.