Just got dumped need advice

Okay so heres the story.. a couple of days ago my boyfriend broke up with me on our one year anniversary. we were having a bit of a rough patch before this happened. we were fighting recently and our fights never really seemed to get resolved after we talked about them. this past friday i made him upset, which led to "we need to talk about our relationship". the funny thing is he didn't really seem like he wanted to break up. he said he was getting anxiety from the thought of breaking up after our talk, and he even said he is scared of breaking up with me because he's not sure if it's the right decision. which makes no sense to me!! during our talk he seemed extremely upset and we couldn't come up with a solution to help fix our problems so he said "i think the best thing for us is to break up". i dont agree with this, and i believe we could solve our problems if we gave it time. nothing can be fixed over night. but the funny thing is, he was holding me and kissing me and trying to comfort me during the talk, and thats when i said "don't touch me" and decided it was best for me to go home. i don't know what to do!! i haven't contacted him since the break up a couple of days ago to give him space.

Wow, this sounds horrible. I can understand why you're hurt, as I go through this often. It depends on a number of factors. How long have you been fighting? What about? If you were in a strong relationship for a year, I would say just take a break and if you still want to be with him, contact him in a week or so. If he's not interested, forget it. Honey, you're young. I'm 54, and I went through an ugly divorce when I found my husband of 10 years was cheating on me--with my own sister! Honesty is very important to me in relationships, which is why I'm so ashamed of myself for lying to my own boyfriend. We all go through shit in our lives, but relationships aren't everything. I've found ways to be happy with my career and hobbies; so can you! Honey, I wish you the very best of luck. This too shall pass.

we have been fighting on and off for about i wanna say a month and it\\\'s just small little things that have been adding it to be bigger problems. ive asked him what the main thing that bothers him is and he told me he thinks i dont listen to him and i can be a bit over emotional sometimes. i even apologized sincerely to him and told him i do listen and we have to come up with a way to fix things. and he agreed but couldn't come up with a way to solve the issues at that we were having from reoccurring and he said "i think its just best to break up". but he didnt sound too sure about it when he said it. do you think its possible he will contact me?

He might. As I said, wait a week. If he loves you enough, he'll work through it. If he can't work through it, then you two are just a bad fit for each other, and that happens. I made the mistake when I got married of ignoring the red flags and ultimately being hurt. That was 20 years ago, and I'm a lot more "seasoned" now. Some people just aren't what they appear to be. That's why "love at first sight" is, frankly, bullshit. You can be attracted to someone at first sight, but love is more than lust; you have to know the person well. Sometimes even a year, for me even 11 years, is not enough time to get to truly know someone. In case you're wondering, I can't blame my sister for what happened as she's schizophrenic, and my husband took advantage of that and cheated on me! You just never know, but wait a week and see how it goes.