Boring relationship. No excitement

my partner and I have been together for 4 years I am 22 and he is 23. Our relationship has gotten to a very dull position we don't do anything most couples do like going on dates going away there is just no excitement even when we are in each others company were both on our phones not saying much to each other, we have the odd joke every now and then but it feels like im chilling with a guy friend rather than my boyfriend and I hate that. Whenever I have tried speaking to him about it in the past he just says why don't u suggest going out but its not the same and its not just about going out there is just no excitement at all. I do love him but im not in love with him he doesn't give me butterflies and we don't have that spark. We don't even send flirty texts or anything like that. I feel like im 62 not 22. I don't know what to do anymore and I get loads of other guys hitting on me all the time which is really flattering but I am and have been 100% loyal to my partner. Im just fed up of being bored don't know what to do. HELP

I find this spark often goes away when there isn't enough variety in the relationship. Everything becomes samey, like a routine. You've both ran out of stuff to talk about and do. It can also be attributed to the fact that just your life in general has become boring, not just the relationship. His suggestion of going out somewhere may spice things up, although considering you only text on your phones when you're with him that may not help matters. Have you two got any activities you could do together? Shared hobbies? Maybe some interests you can talk about? As for flirting why don't you flirt with him and see if he flirts back? The only thing I can think are those, activities and shared interests to talk about. That's all you really can do. An indirect fix would be adding variety to your own life. I.e extending your hobbies, friend circles etc. That can help. With all that said though your relationship does need some kick to get it moving again. Or do you even love each other anymore? In fact what is your definition of love? Since as you say it seems like he's more of a friend than a boyfriend. Maybe this loss of interest, in things such as talking and doing stuff together means he's lost his feelings of love? At least in a purely emotional sense, as he doesn't seem to be trying to interact with you on an emotional level, i.e talking to you, making you laugh, seeing how your day went, flirting with you etc. Usually when you're in love that's one of the most important parts, getting interactions out of your lover. Seeing what he/she has to say, the way they act is meant to make you happy and motivate you to make them talk more. Therefore in that sense maybe you've lost feelings for each other? Or he has to you? But you're both still being loyal to each other because of this status of "boyfriend and girlfriend"? There is some suggestions to make it better and something to perhaps think about within the relationship as a whole. I wish you the best of luck with your relationship, and have a wonderful day :)