Weird, complicated guy... Help?

To give a bit of background on the whole thing, I am 22yrs old, just transferred to a four year university. The university I go to is, er, well known for its party image and lack of commitment, even to a casual friendship.lol. I met a guy, who was my friend, around the start of the spring quarter in January. I could tell he liked me, but I had just gotten out of a very tiresome three year relationship, in which I had been about to get engaged/married, but which was(looking back) extremely abusive. I was naive, and just didn't know. So when he kinda wiggled in mentioning our friendship should go towards more than that. I told him, due to the reputation of our school and my past, I wasn't really looking for anyone and was kinda enjoying being on my own right now. He proceeded to just quietly be there for me, no anger, nothing. He came back, around one month of us knowing each other and said that he didn't do casual, had never seen a point in it, but that I should give us a chance at least. I had come to respect his quietness, so I thought, sure, why not. I told him he had to be 100% upfront with me though, if he was liking another girl at all anything etc, I didn't care, but I didn't want bullshit or lies. Period. <br> THE PROBLEM: So the months went by with us admitting we might want to go the relationship route. We grew really close, talked for ages, and one thing led to another and we eventually ended up sleeping together around 2 almost 3months into knowing each other. He's the second person I'd been with and we weren't in a relationship, he'd never officially asked me out. Was it stupid? Yes, very. Did I do it anyways? Yes. He had, this entire time, been working very hard to show he was a good guy and stuff(we only ever had one disagreement which was that one night when we were supposed to go workout together, he never showed up or called/texted until like four hours later in which he said that he'd been dealing with family stuff on the phone(his family is very far away), but was bothered that I was bothered because, logically, I lost nothing in waiting for him to show up because I was still doing other things anyways, typical guy bs whatever. But that was it, just it)and he told me all the time how much he liked me. He liked me so much he scared himself. And "No, you don't understand, I REALLY really like you" stuff like that. <br> This was all pretty astonishing for me, because, well, the poor guy has had a pretty shitty run of girlfriends. The two worst ones were his longest one of two years who they both agreed would stay together long distance, but she joined a sorority, and cheated on him at least twice within the first two weeks and the second one, his last relationship, where he found out when this school year started, that his gf of last year had been cheating on him the entire six months they'd been dating...with his best friend(at the university)...and the way he found out was that he was living in the same apartment with his best friend..and he brought her over. Yeah, the level of messed up on that one is just...yeah no. <br> Around 4months into knowing him, I'd been patient, but I'd also gotten to the point of frustration with not knowing entirely where this was going. He was developing emotions, I was letting myself be more and more into him, despite my efforts. The whole dating, but not having ever officially asked me out on a date thing, he was kinda waiting to see what I felt. I gave in one night and kinda asked him what he was feeling and if he was still feeling like he wanted to be with me. His reply will always stick out in my mind as the most frustratingly stupid/chick flick-esque ever. It was, "I like you a lot, but I have no idea where to go with it. I wasn't even thinking I'd meet anyone when I met you. But I did meet you, and it was weird, because I liked you so much and you were cute and silly and I don't know, I'd never been that instantly attracted to anyone. How we met was so random, we could have easily missed each other, but we didn't. I wasn't looking for anyone, but I met you." MOST emotional shit he'd EVER said. Those words, despite him saying he doesn't know where to go with it, imply all sorts of emotional stuff. But THEN he proceeds to basically drop off the radar for two weeks!! Barely texts me, avoids me, and then I finally call him, upset, and ask if I can talk to him. We meet and he explains that, he feels like we'd be doomed because he doesn't know if everything would be perfect, and he feels like we'd run into a few issues. But, right now, he doesn't want to do any working through of issues because he feels like putting all that effort out for something that you can never guarantee as working out is pointless.(He basically wants a perfect relationship) SO, rather than hurt my feelings, he's not going to date me/be in a relationship with me, because he feels like he'd be an ass for dating me when he's not 100% sure on things. So, needless to say, I was pretty hurt and pissed off because he'd just spent four months of my life getting closer to me with the expectation that we were going to date....and then backed out because he was worried it wasn't going to be perfect. BUT, he said, he felt like we were really good friends, and he didn't want to lose me as one. I was upset, but said that he needed to give me a week or so of not hanging out and I'd be okay to work on just being friends. <br> I did and it worked, relatively, up until now. A month later. We do this thing, when we have trouble with our roommates, where we go and run around our campus late at night and rant about whatever stupid stuff is going on in our lives overall(usually starts out as just roommates) but as the conversation drifts, no matter what, we always end up talking ENDLESSLY. We forget what time it is, if we're cold, if we need to sleep. We've left at like 10pm some nights and ended up stopping somewhere and talking until 4am. No joke. When we hang out, the rest of the world doesn't exist, period. I mean, I can do that with one other friend who I've known for a over six years, so I'd been trying to switch emotions towards just close friend...and I was getting there. But the last two weeks all he talks about is me meeting this or that family member, or how, if I met this person who he dislikes, I'd understand. Or how I need to do this or this with him and how we should do this or that. Very NON friend things...like...very planney-with-your-gf mentions. I have friends here at the university who've met my friends from back home, but someone who I consider as just a friend I've never been invested in thinking they should integrate into my family or friends circle back home, but thats all he talks about when he talks about home. And he makes excuses to have me stay longer when we just hang out, or he'll start a new conversation. But then he goes out of his way to not always text me, I swear, sometimes -__-.. And he still says all the time he hasn't found anyone else, isn't even looking still...and has said how its "weird" to him. The last time we did one of our night runs he'd walked me back to my apt already and had left and etc and I was complaining via text about how cold I was cause neither one of us remembered the time again and he said that he didn't want to be alone that night, and asked if I could come over. Yeah, I was stupid, and I went over. Since then my emotions haven't REALLY changed from this odd, strange middle of being somewhat attracted but also trying to view him as a friend...but its strange. All this stuff, the whole meeting but could have totally missed meeting in class. If my roommate hadn't chosen that day to ditch the class we shared together, I wouldn't have been sitting at the back of class in a loose seat(we have like movie theater seats in lecture halls, with loose single desks in the back) so I didn't have to talk to people, if he hadn't sat in the one next to me, and so many others. Like we just said hello and straight up, that was it. Looking back on this entire story, it seems like some utterly ridiculous sap story. Something out of hallmark or what have you. But its not, and its ridiculously frustrating. <br> I guess, what I need to know or to have advice on, is should I stop talking to him all together? Are we just one of those things where we can't help but want to talk/be together and I need to stop interacting with him all together? He seems to have a ton of commitment issues. Even if I wanted to just be a friend with him, he doesn't hold out long before he starts making those odd comments again. Is there any way I could convince him to just take a chance? Or am I just convenient and he doesn't want to loose that? I feel like its a bit of a combination of everything...but at the same time...not. I don't know. Help please?

Hey, I'll take any advice a person wants to give me. ^^. Thank you so much for what you've said. Yeah, I do understand him being nice and letting me know. While I was exasperated, I certainly was happy he'd let me know. However, if he'd done just that, and plain let me go, I would have been fine and happy(as I stated)...but he didn't. He said we HAD to stay close friends, and he's still kinda possessive as if we are in a relationship, and then he says all this stuff in the meantime. -_- Both those theories are such extreme opposites of the others, its frustrating. Judging from your advice though, I'd say that I should most certainly not do any more "falling at his feet" sort of things and make it clear no more hookups, but stay close and then if he drops off after not getting anything for a while, I'll know where his wishy washy decision is going?