Faithful to one man

Dear readers, I have been feeling so very torn for several weeks. My presenting issue, is that i seem unable to remain attracted to one man, be faithful and secure a lasting relationship. I have been in relationships since the age of 13, almost constantly. I have been with all sorts of men, from kind to boring to mean and selfish. regardless of the man, i believe myself happily established in a relationship, and then someone comes along, shows and interest in me, and if they have something 'more' than what my current boyfirend has, i end up taking up the newest offer. I can look back and see that the guys i dated before were not exactly what i was looking for, and i wasn't what they wanted either. But finally, i have met a man so gorgeous,virtuous,kind and spiritual, i felt that i had won the lottery. however 6 months down the line, almost overnight, my feelings have changed, and someone new on the scene is giving me a 'rush' from new beginnings , and it's like i'm hooked again. I know in my heart, that if i don't stop this pattern in my begaviour, i won't ever be able to settle down, marry and have a family. the temporary 'high' of falling in love, never lasts forever, but i cannot stop myself. and i cannot reverse my feelings. So far i have not been unfaithful to my partner, but i'm always thinking about this new guy, and i always want to be in places with our friends when i know i can see and flirt with him. I want to find love, that conquers me forever, i'm so heartbroken that i can never feel constant about one guy in my life, especially this one who is so kind and considerate as he is. please help me. i don't know anyone else who has ever experienced this and it makes me feel so alone. many thanks. L

I know exactly how you feel! You can't beat the rush of the chase and then when you're settled that uncomfortable feeling comes along, usually when you meet someone new and exciting! All i can say on this is remember that the new guy gets old too! I've mucked up countless times because i felt 'the rush', and then looking back the guy i built a relationship with was the one i wished had never got away. Life is short and there are so many hot guys that are going to do it for you but a womens intuition is there for a reason, listen to your head aswell as you hormones..trust me!