Keeps standing me up but wanting another chance

So there's this girl I work with that I've been talking to. We kept trying to hang out after work but it was never quite working out (we work in a restaurant so we have different hours or late hours etc) so we made plans to meet outside of work. And then she didn't show. And took a whole to respond to attempts to contact her. The next time I talk to her she has a valid reason so we reschedule. The problem is this keeps happening. Repeatedly. This isn't the first time I've been stood up and I can take a hint, but what makes this different is that she keeps insisting she wants to see me and asks me for a second (and third, fourth, etc) chance. We had a good talk the other day. I told her I'm not stupid and can take a hint but she insisted that there's a lot going on in her life right now. She talked about some of them (family issues) and alluded to their being others. I also am pretty sure she's just getting out of a bad relationship but she doesn't really talk about that with me but I've heard snippets of conversations with female coworkers. So we made one last plan for Tuesday. Surprise. She didn't show up and hasn't even contacted me with so much as a text message to say she's sorry. And what makes it so rough is that SHE asked me for another chance. It's not me trying to force my way into a girl who's not interested. I know I should just cut my losses and be done with her. But the kicker is that I do like her. When I am around her, she brings a smile to my face and makes things better. I can't even stay mad at her. I mean it's easy to when she's not there and I'm thinking about things, but it's hard to stay mad when I'm with her even though I should be. I know she has things she's dealing with. But I don't know if I should be patient and wait for those to work out or if this is just who she is.

Hi I think you are very patient and I have been on the end of the same behavior. We all have hard times to deal with it but you would still make an appointment!!!! I would not organize to meet her again. I would leave it she obviously thinks her time is more valuable. I know you like her but do not let her take advantage of your feelings. This will keep happening to you if you allow her to just get away with it. I think it is part of who she is and her life is an excuse, or maybe it is so she can distance herself from moving on, she is not present with you and you may get hurt. Do not put up with this it will take power from you...

It is possible that all her reasons are valid, some may be invalid. But there is a true demonstration she has some interest here, just that she doesn't turn up? This indicates as people so readily pointed out poor time management or organization. Or she may just be impulsive and not keep track of time. With her 100% unsuccess rate in turning up I'd organize a situation in where that is not possible. For instance ask her to come round to your place if she wants to hang out somewhere, that way you don't have to go anywhere or waste anytime if it ends up null and void. Maybe even you go around to her place? That makes it more probable of happening too. What I'd do at this point is tell her you're still willing to make plans, but she must take the initiative now in actually going somewhere. The best way to get that to happen is for her to come around to you. Let her demonstrate she can do that on a few occasions then make some actual plans like before and see if she turns up then. Perhaps she's just in a busy section of her life. Maybe you could arrange making plans when she has less on her plate too? Maybe in a few months time all this will subside and she will turn up a lot. As all these events in her life has subsided too. In conclusion try not to waste your time, make her come to you first now, if that's possible. If not hold out on the plans until she's less busy and more available. I hope that helped, good luck with this girl and have a wonderful day :)

First off, a good chunk of the problems posted here have a response that sounds identical about getting an astrology reading but they all have different names even though they're clearly the same person. Can we get this nonsense deleted? It drags down the site when people come here looking for real advice and that nonsense is the first thing they see. Secondly, someone said she's probably very cute. That's definitely true. But the thing is I've blown off plenty of people who are pretty on the outside only so that's not what's going on. I mean it obviously helps her case. I won't lie there. What I think is more relevant is that because of being cute, she is able to get away with this with more guys. Heck. Maybe being the first guy to not put up with her crap could be a good thing. I'll see her tomorrow and see what happens. I'm definitely not letting her off easy. It I haven't figured out exactly what I'll say.