Treat him better then me

Its my husbands birthday and hes 48. My three teenage children who normally forget have remembered and making sure there dad as presents and asked what I got him and it hurts so bad because when its my birthday they dont make a fuss or ask my husband what he as got me or go out and get me things. I have been there from day 1 for them always making sure there phones are topped up always trying my best to get them things when they want stuff yet he gets all the attention. I have been a good mother trying to do my best for them always looked after them but this is how I get treated. My son who is 18 as a part time job and bought my husband some records with his own money. He wouldnt do that for me. I know boys tend to be close to there dads but its like all the years I have put into looking after them and yet I dont get special treatment We were once going to split up and I was going to be living about three hours from where he was going to live and the kids would of been with me. He said HE MIGHT of come back to where the kids would of been living and its breaks my heart to know that he might not of moved close to see them but the kids dont know this and I feel he doesn't deserve it at all knowing what he might of done and not being bothered about them.

You need to get yourself out of this phase. You are at a unhappy point and from there when you look around you will find only negativity and sadness. Time to change your focus from family to yourself. Do things that make you happy. Go out, have fun, buy yourself things, pamper yourself. Place yourself before others. For a long time you placed others before you, time to change that equation. When you do that, slowly kids will also realise what you were doing for them. Your husband is enjoying special attention because they(kids) consider you as part of themselves and their father is on the other side. So it never occurred to them that you also have to be treated special. That ideally your husband should have suggested to them sometime which he didn't.