Something seems amiss...

I have a friend I'll call "Joe". Joe is in his mid-40s and for the last several years he has been actively seeking to get married as soon as he possibly can. His intensity about it has scared off the last few women he's dated. Late last year he announced via Facebook that he met someone new who I will call "Jane". Based on the photos he posted on FB she seemd like a bit of an odd duck but he seemed pleased and everyone was happy for him. A mere three months later he announces that he is now engaged and will be eloping in October of this year. It was sort of sudden but not entirely out of character for him. Out of curiosity I checked out her FB profile (which is public). To my surprise she does nt mention him at all anywhere on her profile, not a pic, not a comment, absolutely nothing. She posts on FB regularly, mostly selfies, "inspirational quotes", stuff about herself but not even one thing about him. Now it's six months later and she STILL doesn't mention him at all on her FB page. Dozens of selfies featuring her on the beach, lying in bed, you name it. But not a single mention of Joe at all. I find this to be unusual for a woman in her mid-30s, most people are excited and pleased about getting married and I cannot think of a single reason she wouldn't mention this online. Her FB page features all kinds of personal info about herself (she even made several posts about a miscarriage she suffered before she met Joe as well as her prior relationship) and she appears to have a normal relationship with her family and friends. I am somewhat concerned about Joe as his "all-in" approach has burned him badly in the past. I just can't understand why this Jane person would want to keep Joe as a secret, especially considering that she has agreed to marry him in just a few months. Why would someone in her position refuse to acknowledge such a relationship like that? Does this seem strange to anyone else or am I worried about nothing? Thanks in advance to any and all who reply, have a great day.

You could be reading too much into it. I also don't like to post personal info on my FB page. Initially when I joined I did put up some snaps but discontinued the habit after a while. Why don't you just mail her and congratulate her?

You could be looking too much into this. I can certainly see your concern, the dichotomy between her talking about her prior relationship and a miscarriage, yet not repeating that behavior now, can seem a bit odd. However, some people change those habits. Perhaps when she did that, her friends rejected her for it, or maybe she didn't want her ex getting jealous, or she didn't see a point anymore and there are many other possible reasons. As such you can't draw an accurate conclusion to be potentially worried really. It could indicate something bad, but it's a real nuance really. Unless you have some supporting evidence or something else to back up your suspicions, then on it's own this concern isn't very probable to be a valid worry at the moment. I hope that helps, I wish "Joe" And "Jane" Have a great marriage, and I like how you are concerned for "Joe" too. I hope you have a wonderful day :)

Just fyi.....if you are not friends with someone on fb then you will not be able to SEE their regular fb updates..yes, you will see updates but not everything therefore, for all you know, she could be uploading pics of herself and Joe but you may not get to see it. DOMINWILD has again said everything in a nutshel that I would have said on this particular problem. Good luck with joe and jane :)