Angry and hurt
SUNSHINELOVE - Jun 16 2014 at 15:42
My daughter bought some dvds for fathers day with my money I gave her to get them. My son who is working part time bought without my husband knowing or me two tickets to a show in london which must of cost £50 each
I was gob smacked as I never thought our son would do this which was really good of him and its a show my husband as wanted to go to but had no money to afford the tickets. Im hurt and angry because I feel my husband didnt deserve such a gift and I have done more for our kids then him over the years. Our son as been working for two months and wasnt working when it was mothers day but I wonder if he was would he had got me tickets or something for the same amount, somehow I doubt it. Im angry as well because our son could of got himself some shoes what he needs instead of getting the tickets. My husband is so happy but like I said I dont think he deserves it.
Also my husband borrowed £10 off our son for petrol and said he would give him it back and I feel so ashamed he asked his 18 year old for it and he doesn't feel bad what he did. I only knew he had by hearing him say quietly to our son that he would give him the money back,
Our son said he could keep it.
I would of lent my husband the petrol money if I had it. He said this would be the last time he would do it but it wont. He said he asked his boss for some money. He as started a new job and as to pay for his own petrol as he is a sales man and he had nearly £2000 two weeks ago but said it went on bills and he should of kepted some to one side for petrol. I feel ashamed to be married to him and disgusted he borrowed from our son.
I think there are a lot of problems here.
I think the root of it is you don't trust your spouse about money and you may not be happy in the relationship.
I don't think you should take these feelings out on your kids and show your jealousy. You are jealous that your son bought the ticket and didn't get you anything.
I think you should speak with your spouse. If you do not like him then get divorced. But even if you do he will still be your children's father and still may mooch money off them.
I think you should have a talk with your children, and very sweetly and lovingly tell them that it is the parents responsibility to take care of the children and that they need to keep their money for themselves and your husband and you will figure out your own financial problems but that is was a sweet gift.
and find out where the money actually goes. did it go on bills? May be you should get more involved with the bills and the income.