Help I'm paranoid
TOWER - Jun 17 2014 at 06:04
for 6 months now i have been seeing this girl and we have grown to love each other.But one of the weekends of the first month at around 11:30pm she got a text from some other guy that she was texting there were some sexual things said on these textes between them.Her excuse was that she wasnt sure how long that her and i were going to be with each other? So she text him back and told him that she was in a serious relationship with me.But from then on i have a hard time trusting her and that she is texting other guys behind my back.So we have had alot of arguments were we ended up breaking up but she always comes back to say that she still has feelings for me and we end up seeing each other again.I should also say that she lives about 50 miles away from me so i dont get to see her very much and that makes it harder for me to see herand that i am probably a bit paranoid that she is seeing someone else.I should also say that we met on a dating site called plenty of fish.The question i have is should i stay with her or move on????
It was early days in your relationship when that text was sent and yeh, she had every right to say and feel, not in as much words that she was keeping her options open. But look at her actions after that. Despite having arguments over your paranoid behaviour she still comes back to you and tells you she has feelings for YOU!! Thats saying something right?
You say you live 50 miles apart but you guys are still together after 6 months so again! Thats saying something right? Over time, I am sure you both will work out a way of seeing each other more often or even relocating.
Take a step back and breath!!! Enjoy this time of getting to know each other. Let go of these destructive thoughts. If you do that then I think it can work :)
She was being dishonest by texting other people behind your back. Its is normal for you to have some trust issues about her now. If she was honest about the text and didn't try to hide it that may be a mark in her favor though. You need to let her know exactly what you want out of this relationship. If she lies to you then you need to just get out.