Obsession

I was infatuated by a girl on seeing her for the first time. Since I was shy I could not talk to her directly, so I got to know her through some mutual friends. I proposed her after one year, which she rejected. I tried a couple of times after another year but it did not work out. She fell in love with another person but it ended after 2 years. She got arranged marriage later. I could not forget her so I tried to be her friend and for 1 year we were friends in facebook and talked often. Now she does not want our friendship to continue so she decided to end it. I cannot control myself from talking to her and thinking about her. It has been six years and I think about her many times daily. I understand she is married and cannot continue our friendship but I cannot control myself. I am obsessed with her. I recently promised I will not disturb her again. I want to hold on to that promise but I cannot stop thinking about her. I am studying my masters and I cannot afford a doctor for another year. Please suggest any medical methods to control myself. I have tried with meditation, exercise and it does not seem to do anything better. Thank you

It sounds like you have some serious problems. You may need to seek counseling (professional). Also your obsessing is going to cause you to miss opportunities to fine a woman who would be available to you. You need to cut off all communication from this woman and keep it that way. Every time she comes to mind, speak out loud or stand up, if you are sitting, sit if you were standing, distract yourself from your obsessive thoughts with a physical action. Do not allow her to intrude on your mind. What works for me is I say "gross" (if Im the only person in the room, don't want to seem crazy) this way it distracts your mind and it groups thoughts of this person with the negative word, making it less desirable to think of them.