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I get racial discrimination because of my foreign boyfriend

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I'm a 19-year-old Asian girl. I'm in a relationship with a 20-year-old guy from France. We've been together since I was fourteen. I got bullied as a kid due to my looks, but I quickly recovered in middle school. I gained confidence since I started to focus on my academics and my interest in knowledge. Ever since then my confidence has been fine and some guys actually got attracted to me and stuff. But when my boyfriend moved in with me two years ago, my self-esteem got wrecked again. Every time we go out, I hear people say really mean things. And they all STARE at me, or glare sometimes. My boyfriend is really good-looking and has a good body, so the attention we get is much more than average interracial couple gets (most men here with local girls are old or really fat). Because of that, I don't even wear shorts anymore because I think my legs have too many scars. I used to be okay with how I look. It's taking a toll on me. I don't want to be seen as a gold digger, a w h o r e , ugly or "inappropriate for him." No matter how much I try to remind myself that I look good and don't listen to them, it just hurts inside. It's as if I'm just putting up a smile.

I get racial discrimination because of my foreign boyfriend

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You hear people say things, but do they say it openly? Verbally, or do you hear it as rumours or over hear it? I don't think you'd get more attention than a regular couple, and I don't see why people would call you a whore just because you've got an attractive boyfriend. I assume these people must know you in some respect? If they don't know you, then it's probably just jealousy on there part. If you're not doing anything practically wrong, then there is nothing you can really do about it. A long as you're not going around being a literal "gold digger", then there is not much you can do in that regard. I suppose the minimal thing you could do is dress looking less like a "whore". Even then you're always going to get people who throw insults at your randomly, that's just what people do. I would try not to conform to what people think about you in public, those people don't matter, the only people that matter are your friends and people you interact with. The best advice I can give is to try and concentrate on other things, occupy your mind with more things apart from those negative insults. Therefore think about your hobbies, friends, family whatever that gets your mind off them. These people don't really effect your life at all, therefore they shouldn't really matter, unless their insults are valid. In conclusion there will always be people in life who insult you, you can't really change that. The people that you have no connection that insult you are probably just jealous or just don't like you for some reason. Best thing to do is what you already are doing which is keeping your mind off of those things. It doesn't matter what other people think of your relationship, it's your life, you're in control, it's really none of their business. Ultimately what you do only effects you, dressing should be how you want to dress. I hope I helped, good luck and have a wonderful day :)

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