Boyfriend wants to go on trip without me

So my boyfriend and I are both 25 and have been together nearly 7 years. We moved in together less than a year ago. His friend is studying abroad and he plans to go on an epic adventure (literally the other side of the world) with this guy and another friend. It's clear that I'm not invited. I feel really down about this as I was hoping that he would propose soon (we planned to get engaged this year) and we could start planning our wedding. I think he knows I'm getting fed up of being commitment-less and I wonder if this is the push I need to move on. He guesses that I'm not happy about his trip but the depressing part is I think he will go no matter what I say (although I wouldn't try to stop him). We talk about going on a big trip next year a lot so it really doesn't make sense for him to go now. Am I being blinded by how long we've been together and how much I love this guy or should I take his signals as they are and get out of here?!

I think you are over reacting to the trip. Once in a while we all feel the need to get away alone. He might have his reasons for not inviting you along. Whatever it is, if its bothering you so much, you need to talk out openly with him and see what he is telling you.

Hi. I am just going to be honest with you. You seem to be focused on the talk about getting engaged - that is good. However, a man needs his man time. Like us ladies we need our time too. When a guy is with his girlfriend no matter how much they love their girlfriend they still need a bit of freedom to go out and have a laugh with their mates. Just allow a bit of space between eachother. Let him go and do whatever men do and you just chill with your girlies with a glass of wine and have fun. He will be back home in no time.

I'm not sure if this is just really to late to give advice but I figured I would go ahead since my advice will differ so much from the advice just given by others. You have been together 7 years. That is a long time. If it upsets you so much for him to leave (and believe me I would tell him it was over if he left) then he needs to take your feelings into consideration. Be happy that you are not married to him yet. If you need a man who would not leave with is guy pal on an epic adventure and leave you home alone then that is who you need to find and start dating. If you are the type of girl to be ok and call up your girls and have an epic adventure of your own then go for it. I would be very up set if my partner or even 3 years were to go on a vacation without me. We are partners, we go on vacations together or not at all. He knows this, if he doesn't like it then he should stop dating me. When you find the person who is compatible with you then you marry them. Don't marry the guy who would leave of an epic adventure even when he knows that is would hurt you.

I agree with ColdSnowBunny above. You seem at a defining point in the relationship. Work out what you feel and what you want i'd say.

Your words clearly indicate you two have not spoken about this issue, and it seems to a critical aspect to you. It means a lot to you and he could be oblivious to this. You need to talk to him about this. Perhaps all it would take is a simple "Can I go too?". As he may think you have no interest in going on an epic adventure with *his* friends. I think there are other issues you've not mentioned here too. As you said you're fed up in this "commitment-less" relationship. I think whatever other situations or aspects that make you feel this way are drastically more important to address. So he knows how you feel about that, why you feel like that and if he loves you he should want to fix some of those problems to make you happy. He should care that you feel sad, if he knows your sad. Granted, you should not strictly stop him going on this trip as you have stated. However, he's still made some big plans next year? That shows some commitment right? In those 7 years you've be for the most part, unhappy more times than you've been happy, then yes considering leaving is an option. <b>Although</b> not before considering negotiating with your partner to fix this. If in those 7 years you have tried to negotiate and he has known your feelings to his commitment-less actions, and you've suggested ways to fix it and he's had the opportunity too fix it, but just hasn't. Then you can take a less negotiating approach is you so wish. Since if he didn't do anything 3 years ago when you told him, he's unlikely to do it now. However I'd still advise trying to negotiate if you still want it to work out in some fashion. I hope this helped, good luck with your relationship and have a wonderful day :)