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No spark in relationship

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I have been with my boyfriend for just over a four years now we have a soon to be two year old together. He has never really been the outdoor kinda guy i have always known that but in the beginning he did make the effort to make suggestions about us going out on dates once in a while. Of lately i found we have lost the spark in our relationship, its almost as if were just together for the sake of it. We do get on and have minimal arguments but it often feels as though hes like a guy best friend. Things dont feel 50/50 with us it is usually me suggesting lets go out or when are you coming over stuff like that. I want him to want me like he did when we first got together and to give me the attention i get from guys i dont want attention from (if that makes sense) HELP

No spark in relationship

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Did you try to speak with him about this? Let him know how much it bothers you. You are not living together I take it. Think about this long term, would you settle for this for another 2 years? or 5? How about for the rest of your life, having to ask him to come over to see you, having to ask him out on dates, having to ask him for attention that he should be giving you any way. I suggest you let him know just how serious this is to you. That is isn't just some little complaint, that it is a genuine problem that you do not want to have to put up with for much longer. Eventually the other guys that are giving you the attention that your boyfriend is not, are going to start looking pretty good. You are a woman and women need attention. It is only natural to start looking in the direction of those that show and active interest in you and those that show you that you are something special. I'm not saying this is the case with you yet but it could very well become the case.

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