Boyfriend

So my bf gave his babymama money and she met at his job. But the thing is few weeks ago she threaten him saying I want to know where you work and live to put you on child support. He never told her. But now she found out where we live and he told her just today where he works at so he could give her money. But I should be the only he should give money to. I have a child with him too. His babymama is married. Why cant she ask her gf? If she needs money for the kids then why can't he buy the stuff. This girl uses her money on herself and not the kids. They always come to our house with dirty clothes and no food. I need help am I being so mad for no reason?

He has a child with her so he has an obligation to provide for that child just as he would to your child if you two would ever split up. If he doesn't feel the money is being spent on the child, then he should talk to his ex. I don't know what kind of relationship you all have with each other and the ex, but if you pit him against her, he might become resentful of you. If you ever heard the saying "you catch more flies with honey than vinegar" then you know it is better to make a friend out of any enemy. When someone doesn't feel attacked or threatened by someone they are more likely to work with you than against.

I understand your frustration but the children he has with his ex are his and he is responsible for them, not the mothers new spouse. He needs to keep a record of the cash he gives her because if/when she decides to get child support he may be responsible to back pay as well. Children are expensive and i'm sure if you were to go to court they would take into account the amount of children he has and try to find a fair divide for the available money.