I must be stupid!

My gf/fiance and I have been together for like 5 years. We had a great sex life (I thought) when we first got together. Now that we have been living together for 3 years it has been two years since sex. She also doesn't hug or kiss me. She hardly spends anytime with me at all. I do a lot for her, and get very, very little in return. Some times not even a thank you, and she never actually says I love you to me. She even said if I wanted sex so bad to go out and get it. She texts on her phone 5 times more than she speaks to me. If I actually had a spine I would try to do something about it, but I don't. I have talked to/at her until I lost my voice! I have no idea what to do....our lease is up in like 4 months....do I break up with her? Recommend counseling? I mean I really love this woman!

Hey Dude iam goin thru similar achenessss... its only cos she knows ur alwayys there and perfectly doing everything for her.. let her taste a bit of u not being there...but in a subtle way u dont wanna risk losing her if u love her that much.. so jst maybe find a way of making her miss the litttle things u do for her and she mite wake up... its easy to say and hard to do i know.. so take simple steps and do ur thing.. take care

READ THIS, I'M HELPING YOU! holy crap...it sounds as though you have become a dead servant that is always there for her. a servant that serves her, but to her, you may be so low that she doesn't want to have sex with you anymore. i know that all probably sounded really bad to you and may have hurt your feelings, but i am truly an honest person. i say what i say, people take it how they take... apparently, talking to her until you lose your voice is not working love. ...it is time to rip your spine out, look at it, comprehend that "Hey, i do have a freaking spine," and use it. She's spitting in ur face!...if you are unsatisfied by the way she acts, then DO something. Their is no reason for you to sit back and lose your own self-satisfaction for someone who doesn't appriciate you, accept you, and much more, doesn't even respect you! she told you to go out and have sex, then maybe you should do it. let the door she has figuretively opened for you slam shut on her. i know you love her, but she seriously sounds like she could care less now. you don't want that, i'm sure... turn your phone off or don't reply to her txts. she'll start talking to you. if she starts talking bad then say "i'm sorry, did you say something. you haven't actually talked to me i forgot what you voice sounded like." okay, maybe the last 2 sentences were bad advice, but, i am seriously trying to get my point across. Don't respect people, who don't respect you. Cliche, i know. they say you have to give respect to get it... well love, you've given a lot more than was necessary to this...woman you love. if you feel my advice is too strong or out-of-reach, then follow Mr A's advice. i hope i have opened your eyes to what you already know and have given you courage to enforce your strenght...