Relationship help!!

Hi... I need some advice please... there is a girl which I work with, we have worked together for the last 5 years or so. We have always been good friends and we have both liked each other since day 1. The problem is she is in a relationship with someone. A few years ago they got engaged, then bought a house together and then got married but they are always falling out or arguing in there relationship and every time that happens we end up getting closer to each other and wanting more from each other... part of me thinks she comes to me for the attention or to make herself feel better when things aren't good in her relationship. This has been going on now for a few years... towards the end of last year, it was happening again, I don't think things were to good in her relationship etc... and we both ended up getting alot closer than ever, talking about her finishing her relationship and we have been all over each other when we have met when it has been just me and her. She says that she doesn't love him anymore than a friend, but because of the mortgage and finanical situation she doesn't know what to do. I don't know what to suggest about that... she says that she likes me a lot and cares about me and would love us to be more... and to be honest I adore the girl and think the sun shines out of her ar*e! I just don't know what to suggest? I want to be with her but I'm just confused as to what to do... help! Thanks!

*sighs*...wow. um...hmph. ...sorry about that. it sounds as though you are the shoulder to cry on. it must make you happy that she comes to you when she is hurt... that means she trusts you, and/or she just needs someone at the moment and you 2 are so close she chooses you. if you want to be with her, tell her. if you have already told her, then make it happen. i feel you are smart. you don't have to waste your time and life being confused over something like this. you say this has been going on for a few years?...wow. it's time for a change love. if she is not happy with the guy she is married to and she likes you, simple fix for that: she files for a divorce, makes it a success, and ends up with you. You're probably thinking,"are you crazy," "it's more complicated than that," "Do you even know what you are talking about?" If you are thinking any of this, please release yourself by not thinking at all and just keep reading. if things do work out right, and she does get a divorce, and you 2 end up being together, then you have accomplished what you hoped to. You helped her, a door is open for you to NOT be the mistake her husband was, and you have her as your ''lover." I hope you're not confusing lust, obsession, and/or attachment with actual "love." Love is when you look at someone, and no matter what they call you, tell you, or how bad they just piss you off, you still wish the best for them and still wish for them to be happy. i hope you do truly love her because if you do, then you will have a great experience with this women. Perhaps life changing...hopefully for the better. i hope SQUEE! (i) have helped you. ^.^