BDSM

So my Mrs said to me that she wanted to be a sub and I was willing to be her Dom but she never wanted to do anything and a few months later she said she actually wanted to be a domme and again I was willing to be her sub and again she didn't want to do anything and the odd time we did she wanted to get it over as fast as possible and just didn't seem interestrd, thru all this time she was talking to people on fetlife, and then a few months ago she found someone on there who she said was going to train her up properly so we could do it better so while she willingly went and did things with him , things I've asked her to do but she flat out refused, and still barely anything for me and only a couple of mins of uninterested one time she spent more time on her phone than doing anything with me . Things didn't work out with him and she found someone else and again she jumped in head first willingly to do everything and this time nothing for me at all and now it turns out she wants to be a sub and is only doing this "training" to have it done. I suppose what I want to know is does it sound like it's just me she doesn't want to share this part of her life with .

It stopped with the first fella cos she wouldn't have sex with him and the new fella is online

on line cheating is still cheating. She gets her rocks off on line and doesn't want anything to do with you (my opinion). and I would bet money she DID go farther with the other men then she is telling you. You don't need that much training to be a sub. Its pretty cut and dry. She's cheating on you. you need to let this fantasy go and realize that.

It started out as her training to be a domme but it's only recently she says she thinks she's a sub again and wants to do this training to find out