Can't make wife happy

Hi everyone. I am married for 3 years and together with the same woman for 7. We have a 3 year old son. Occasionally, we get along great. Everything just feels like it was meant to be.. These fleeting moments of happiness I do not think could easily exist any other way. We have a lot invested in the relationship.. time..we fully own a home..everything that goes with a home.. a shared experience. Now I make a pretty good salary. I have no mortgage to pay. In theory, from this perspective I should be able to take some pride. No. Not if you ask my wife.. except on her good days/moments.. Everyone is better off. I guess I should preface this by saying that I'm American, she's European and we are currently living in Europe. So some of things I say have to be understood a little differently. Keep that in mind as I go on. Our son who is 3 is more or less non-verbal. Every morning I have a speech pathologist come at 9am and stay till noon. At noon a nanny comes and stays till 5:30pm. My son has a playroom with every toy ever invented...certainly enough to occupy him so that he can be left a lone a bit. If you ask my wife.. none of this is good enough because my son's development delay (which I would say is very small and she would say is huge because she exaggerates things) is my fault somehow..and everything I offer is too little to compensate. It was her birthday. I sent her to the salon..full treatment.. I took her to dinner.. I bought her a dress... I also bought her an Iphone.. I guess I am behind the times but I got an Iphone 3.. figuring my son will knock the phone down all the time like he does with the other ones and she isn't much of a phone user. Holy hell! She wouldn't talk to me for a day. She shouted. Cried. Cursed. ''What low opinion I must have of her '' to dare give her such a bad phone. She then said it's clearly counterfeit. I contacted Apple! They verified the phone is the real thing. That is if you take my word for it.. The registered phone call, e-mail verification..it's all a lie if you ask my wife. The phone simply has to be counterfeit. In any event, ''everyone''has an Iphone 4 or above, even kids. I got the phone just to ''make fun of her.'' b.t.w. she never even asked for a phone, I just figured to get her a new one.. Now as I write there is a maid cleaning the room..yes a maid comes 3 times a week.. yet despite the teacher, nanny, maid.. I leave her with no time..she is a full time ''slave'' to my son. I am drinking a light beer because I have had no food. Yesterday I had ice cream. (They don't sell frozen ready to eat food here..) I say nothing. No complaint.. yet I am the devil. I mean you should know who you are talking with I am like the scum of the earth. For starters (if you ask my wife) I have an upset look on my face. If that's not bad enough though I am home almost all the time..and when my wife was pregnant was gone for one day only -- I am also involved with a number of ''whores.'' Somehow, while pregnant I magically transported myself from our rural home to cities where I was gone for long stretches of time clearly frequenting ''whores.'' The fact that I was gone just one night -- for business -- is not true. I am making it up -- if you ask my wife. Her memory is great - -I was gone a lot (sic). I haven't bought a new pair of pants since before my son was born..all the money I earn goes to support the family and particularly things that my wife identifies she needs/son needs and of course the ''support staff.'' So my wife is trying to figure out why the f-ck I don't give her a grand or two to go buy some jewerly or clothes as ''all men who respect their wives do.'' Now, this may paint her as being money-centered but ironically that's not really the case. She's not that type persay. I mean I guess if you look at the facts you might beg to differ but nonetheless her type is not materialistic ..it's more being very touchy and a false sense that she is somehow being mistreated and that somehow everyone has it better the she does. She also hates my parents. Blames them for all kinds of stuff they have nothing to do with. Her last visit was Christmas 3 years ago. I still hear about how I destroyed her Christmas. The past two Christmas follow a beautiful tradition.. as Christmas Eve approaches my wife comes downstairs and recalls Christmases past that I have destroyed..she then goes to her room as I prepare dinner. She then says she is not hungry as I eat dinner alone. Then I play carols and the tradition is at midnight that she yells down ''turn off that damned music I am trying to sleep.'' On Christmas morning, the tradition is to look at a room full of gifts and small fortune spent and berate each gift for it's lack of quality and taste and look at me crosseyed. Then we like to relive the Christmas eve experience. As I write it down, it all sounds horrible yet there are nice moments there too.. I have fond memories of decorating the tree together and then watching it snow..or of her baking ''Christmas bread.'' Almost as if they are of another person. It's those memories though that are so powerful that they seem to override everything else. Well, here I am writing you all of this and of course it's a workday but it's about day 20 that I have been taken from work (home office) and dragged into a scandal that has taken away all my concentration. Part of me feels like I have to be the stronger person and there are some emotional and pyschological problems here but I am getting warned out. Of course there is also my son and the fact we are from different countries. What would you do..really..if in my shoes? Thanks so much.

She sounds spoilt and ungrateful. Not sure why you married her she sounds like a huge pill to swallow. Does she work? Maybe she needs to find something to occupy her time instead of feeling sorry for herself constantly. She had enough time to call apple to verify the phone and make sure it wasn't counterfeit? Who does that? Hasn't she ever heard "don't look a gift horse in the mouth"? Stop spoiling your wife. She's a grown woman and acting like a 16 year old brat.

She has the wrong idea of what marriage is, and what being a mother is. You have also allowed this, and indulged her in this insanity. Fake phone? What happened to is the thought that counts. You can not make another person happy. Your wife is unhappy with herself and blames you. That is just easier for her. She needs a job or something to validate her own abilities and self worth. Without her seeing that, misery is all you will know.