How can I deal with a woman who is boring in bed?

She doesn't seem to want to take any initiative in bed. I get the feeling that she wants me to do everything... But I am inexperienced, and am not sure how/what to do. The only things we have really done are me giving her oral. She enjoys it and finishes, I think, but I don't get anything out of it. I am not sure how to talk to her about this or what to do. I keep expecting her to take a bit of a lead, get me naked as well and start doing stuff for me, but she doesn't, which makes me think that she wants me to do it myself... But I feel awkward doing it; it would break the flow of things. I apologize if I am not making any sense, but I have never fcund myself in such a situation and am puzzled. Basically, how can I let her know that I want her to take the lead? Should I say it before starting? Or is there something I can do while we are starting that can more subtly let her know what I would like?

Partners need to desire you mentally, and physically. If one lacks the other, you'll be in this situation - in deep shit of that lack of intimacy. Sadly, all I can sagely advice is to open up to your partner. For fucks sake...your partner might not even desire you. You. As a human being. That's sad. Goodnight.

But how do I talk to her? And if she does not desire me, why would she want me to go down on her?