Flaky friend

Is she really my friend? We text all the time and I feel like she is one of my best friends but when I try to do something in person she is constantly busy tho doesn't seem to be when we text. I'm generally persistent in trying to see her and usually we plan back and forth for 2 hours. In the end she always can't. We've never done anything I initiated. She claims she's preparing for school and doing work but this can't be all day everyday. Though she does have time to spend with her boyfriend. What should I do?

No, she's not your real friend. If she was, she'd find the time to spend with you in person as you mentioned in your post. You need to understand texting is just that..texting. A true friendship involves interaction and sharing each others company and interests. Find someone qho's prepared to this.

Her life is becoming more and more busy. Her boyfriend (and maybe future partner), her career and her education are her first priorities. This happens as we get older. We have less and less time to "hang out". She is willing to make time for you via text or phone and that may have to be the extent of it unless once in a blue moon you two can have a get together. Also you may want to ask yourself, "when life happens and we no longer are able to hang out what does friendship mean?" I had an understanding that true friendship ment that life can get busy and maybe we don't have time to get together much any more but at least we can still give each other a call and be there for each other in that way. talk about our accomplishment, our fears, out plans for the future and know you are speaking to a like mind and a friendly ear. Friend ship isn't just about having the hang out pal who is available on Saturday night to go bowling or free next weekend to go shopping. If you cant stay friends with someone just because they are moving on with life and you want that pal that is physically available then maybe it wasn't a real friendship to begin with. Real friends are there for each other no matter what, even if it is only on the phone.