Do I move on or stick it out?!

i have been in a relationship with my ex for about 4/5 months.. he then ended it while going through a hard phase in his life.. he said he wants to be alone and not want to deal with the while relationship.. after a week or two after our break up i felt as i needed to talk to him about what had happen.. at the end of the convo he said that we can start to take things slow cuz he does care an love me.. it tht=en turned out that i missunderstood him.. he though of this as talking and seeind the odd time and seein how it goes .. and i though it meant that we slowly were easing into a relationship.. when i saw him the next time he was so sweet.. he said he was glad i came up to see him and from then we seem to get on alot more, and when txting we even say 'love you' again.. however im not happy.. seems to me now hes getting the best of both words where he has a free hand to do as he pleases yet has me there as well.. i dont know what i should do.. should i cut all the contact? should i continue like this and see what hapens? i really love this guy and want to be with him but i dont want to feel like this anymore.. i want to feel like his number one girl.. so confused..

Gosh. I know how you feel. I've been there. You know this isn't good but you want to keep going because you love him. But deep inside you and I both know that he doesn't feel the same way about you. He might love you, but not as much to sacrifice for you. When a guy really loves a girl, he wants to hold on to her. In your case, he really is just getting the best of both worlds. I think you should confront him in a friendly way. Tell him you're having a hard time and you can't go on as friends with benefits. Ask him to decide if he wants a relationship or a friendship. If he says he wants a friendship, then tell him you need some time to yourself to move on first, and then you can both be friends with no romantic feelings. That is the best thing to do. Good luck.

It's so hard!! I have spoke to him about this before and he said he just doesn't want a relationship ATM .. He said u never know what will happen, but he doesn't want to give me false hope.. He said not to wait for him and just get on with life.. But honestly who am I kidding .. As long as I know there's a chance il hold on.. I see him quite reguraly and have great relationship with his mum.. I know there's no other girls involved or anything .. It's just such a confusing situation like.. I don't want him thinking I'm there in the click of his fingers but I don't know if I'd be strong enough to cut all contact.. He's been so sweet in all this making sure I'm ok, txting me about me and how I'm gettin on in my new job and generally making sure I'm ok.. I really don't know..