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Hello, I'm on here because my partner and I want different things from sex. My partner wants intimacy, touching and all the other things that I should want. The trouble is that I don't want the same things. I thrive on sexual excitement derived from being in control, playing out fantasies and generally dwelling on the more primitive aspects of sex. I have put this in the 'sex' section but actually I think this is more of a relationship thing. I love my partner, we live together and do have alot in common. I realise that this paragraph will probably seem odd compared to what I said previously. Looking back this is following the same pattern that all my relationships have taken - namely sex is great at the start, we go out for a year or so and the familiarity seems to kill the desire that I had. This worries me as I want to be able to be a good boyfriend but clearly I am not giving her what she needs at the moment. That's about it really...

stay single and visit prostitutes the desire comes from loving and you are clearly to selfish

Thanks, that's really helpful.

On reflection, you're right about selfishness. Sorry for the sarcasm. Thanks for the wakeup call.

good first hurdle over,they say variety is the spice of life and in a long term relationship it does work both ways. Have you tried talking about this to your girlfriend, if not, communication is the real key to a relationship, have you ever thought you may have killed her desire by your basics and lack of emotion