1st love back but I'm married!

My 1st true love is back on the scene after 20 yrs!And I know I broke his and my heart but we were too young. I'm now married and he is getting married soon.We've been in contact for about a month and it is driving me crazy-there is so many mixed messages. I do not know what to do and I am thinking about him all the time. My marriage is good but there is no physical relationship and hasn't really been 1 for years which has caused us to split up a number of times. Do I try to pursue this relationship if possible?

hi,you never forget your 1st true love and you think you have unfinished business

sorry posted to soon,as i was saying,how did you get back in touch with each other after all this time,do you both feel the same or is it just butterflies in you stomach cos of your past,your married now and he is about to be,so i wouldnt persue it myself.you say you marriage is good but not physical which is also not helping can nothing be done about this ,do you love your husband,a lot of people will be hurt if you do pursue it and as they say the grass isnt always greener on the other side,hes grown up and so have you ,you might find you have nothing in common anymore .

Remember you were young. You are getting bored with your relationship so another one is attracting you. It may seem like a good idea but you haven't even seen each other in forever. You don't even know if you guys are the same people, and why would you want to ruin his relationship he has going. It could be very tempting for you both, but think of the pain you could be causing for the people that love you. Getting into all this is just going to complicate things and mess up the life you have going. If you realize you are truly unhappy, maybe you need to get a divorce first, instead of doing something behind your marriage. I would recommend trying to fix your marriage first though. See if you can spice things up, let your husband know you are not satisfied. As him how he feels about all this, because he may want to split too. Work on things with him, but betraying him is not going to help.

In reply to both posts-thanks for the replies. Firstly he got back in touch with me through a networking site!So I'm sorry to say that my take on this is that he is not happy in the 1st place and should not be getting married, whether anything happens with me or not! Yes we are both fighting the feelings and have both tried not to contact each other over the last few months;but it doesn't work!He backs away for weeks on end and then he's back!When this happens we just e-mail once a week and it's just converation.Even though we haven't met,but we have spoken several times, e-mail and text. Regarding my marriage we have tried numerous times to make this work and split as many times too.My husband admits its him who has a problem,and yes we have tried to spice it up! He will not get help! It doesn't help that I am desperate for a baby! I know I am very lucky to have what I have but it is all materialistic. There is no passion or love just respect I suppose? I know that this is already causing pain especially to us both and it will cause more.It is already killing me. As he is not sure about leaving life.But he keeps coming back for more and wants more sometimes. Which I have told him will not happen. As I said there is alot of mixed messages and he has admitted he cannot resist me,and that he backs away because he can't deal with it? I adore him always have and always will. But I am scared to tell him. I have told him that we cannot live like this. And he does agree. And it kills me when he backs away.I have tried to ignore him when he tries to contact me but I cannot get him out of my head! I cannot believe I am behaving like this! Any other advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks again