Can this be considered abuse

First, my mom never hits me. My brother and I got into a fight at McDonald's—we threw ketchup on each other. I'm older (I'm 15), he is 13. I got some ketchup on a woman's clothes and my mom had to reimburse her for the damage. My mom freaked out on me, she told me I was an immature baby and my brother too—in front of people in McDonald's. Leaving McDonald's, she told us that she should get us some pacifiers and some pampers and a playpen. People were looking at me, as if she were right. She took away my XBox. I can't go out on weekends now. On the car ride home she was yelling at us, telling us when she goes to Walmart, she should buy us a crib and stuff. Can I turn her into CPS for abuse saying those things to me? Isn't it slander or something saying lies about someone? Saying I need pampers and making me look bad in public? For the record, my brother started it. It's not fair she took away my games and I can't go out now. she is overeacting over this please help with adivce

MY MOM JUST DIDNT CALL ME A BABY BUT TOLD ME I BELONG IN PAMPERS AGAIN look people heard her call me a baby in mcdonalds and tell me that she was going to get me diapers and a crib for what i did. i have witnessess dont you think that would help with soical servcies. its not fair it was only ketchup we threw on people and the people in front of us were old like in 60s (im not being mean when i say there in there 60s)they wouldnt even know it was on there clothes if my mom didnt say anything. its not fair you know. i dont want to sound like a whinny baby . she had to pay 45 bucks for the clothes i ruined but that was her choice. BUT NO OTHER MOM WOULD TELL ME THAT I SHOULD BE IN DIAPERS AND NEED A BOTTLE ONLY MINE DOES THAT. thats how un cool she is.. IT WAS ONLY MCDONALDS NO PLACE FANCY AND IT WAS KETCHUP. her telling everyone im a baby and belong in pampers and stuff was foul you know and a bunch of lies. no one got hurt it was only ketchup. I JUST WANT HER TO FORGET ABOUT IT. NOTHING IS WRONG WITH THAT RIGHT? cause of her actions peopple think im a baby now its not like anyone got hurt. no one broke a leg. she told me i made her look bad like she was a bad mom. she told me i cant be trusted to be by myself that i need a baby sitter. she wont let me take drivers ed now she says im to immature to drive

In my opinion it is not classed as abuse but is classed as DISCIPLINE. She is your mother and you want to reoprt her for abuse over that incident!! Give your mother the respect she deserves. I am sure she would be devastated if she read your post.

So you and your brother got out of control and ended up severely embarrassing your mum (making her look to all and sundry like a lax parent who hadn't ever taught her kids the basics such as how not to behave in public, even) as well as costing her money (- as opposed to all the washing powder advertising hype, ketchup doesn't come out!), which resulted in your mum getting out of control and ending up severely embarrassing you. Should she have said things that humiliated you in public? Possibly not (were she a robot or superhuman). Should you (and your brother) have done things that humiliated her in public? Possibly not (were you and he robots or superhuman). Do any of those bystanders know you? Will you ever see any of them again? And if you did, would they even remember you or be able to place you to that incident? I doubt it, don't you? Now try to imagine you and your brother were in McD's unaccompanied by your mum but instead by all your friends, including, say, some bloke you fancied or potential new friend you wanted to impress, and your brother ended up getting out of control and throwing ketchup over the much-loved outfit of one of them, who then reacted outraged at you as his keeper/elder for all to see and hear. Would you have been capable of not losing it by saying OTT things in anger to *him* that you didn't actually or ordinarily mean? Would you call him a baby, etc., and, if you could, give him the consequence of loss of Xbox and freedom for however many weeks in order to ensure he never showed you up like that again? Or would you do utterly nothing (except perhaps tut)? Do you even know what can happen next when you tell Social Services your mum is abusive (assuming they took your claim seriously)? Do you know what happens if they don't and instead consider you to have abused their service through dragging them into a bog-standard daughter-mum quarrel/issue? Not rhetorical questions, btw, I'm asking - do you actually know the potential consequences from there? Put it this way - if they did take you seriously, you'd very quickly regret it with a capital R. And for way more than days or weeks. Cos whenever *they* overreact, that's when you find out the true meaning of the word! Not worth it, surely? As I see it, you overreacted (with your brother) and embarrassed her and made her have to give up something she wanted and needed and she turned around and overreacted and embarrassed you then made you have to give up something you want and need. So the inequity and injustice lies - WHERE?? If I were you (which I sort of was once), I'd be on my very best behaviour in the hope of getting early parole through her re-thinking things as she inevitably calms down increasingly day-by-day. Frankly, though, given the fact that reaction and punishment of hers has so obviously shocked you, I can only conclude that by mine and other people's standards your mum normally is actually quite a bit of a softie! My mum, once, in anger, actually broke a hairbrush over my head! It still to this day makes me bristle (:-D sorry, couldn't resist). PS: Mums (and dads) are supposed to be uncool. It's nature's way, precisely what spurs you into conquering the fears involved in leaving home once the time comes (in your case, only 2 years minimum). Think about it: if you and she got on constantly like a house on fire, where would be your need to ever leave? (Yikes!, eh?)

Maybe you should call CPS, because then you'd learn what bad parenting really does look like. Be grateful that all your mom did was embarrass you. Ruining a stranger's clothes should be the most embarrassing part of this for you. It's called common courtesy. You don't throw things at other people, and if it's an accident you apologize profusely and make sure the stranger knows that your mother didn't raise you this way. You should be grateful to your mother. Because of her, you might actually learn respect someday and look back and say, 'boy, if my kids ever did that, I'd kick their butt right into next year'.

meagan she treats me like im still in pampers moy mom does.

Okay, then, that's a wider issue than the McD incident suggests, isn't it. I remember being 18. What a wonderfully convenient age: "You're not old enough to do that", and then 5 minutes later, "You're old enough to know better!". Well, make up your minds, Wrinkly Peeps?! Little did I know back then: it takes a HUGE mental adjustment for a mother to loosen the invisible umbilicus between her and her "baby" (think waking up wired to the Matrix). And with busy lives these days, mums don't always notice fast enough when you're ready for the leash to start to be lengthened. Imagine how you'd feel right now if your little brother announced he was going to go back-packing around Australia for a year. You'd experience serious misgivings about his ability to cope, wouldn't you. You'd worry yourself sick and want to stop him. There you go, then. Nobody told you it was time to go from milk to solids, from immobility to crawling to walking, etc. Kids make the first move and parents follow behind playing catch-up. Arris524, you're going to have to yet again make the first move if you want your mum to follow suit and treat you more like an adult. What sorts of things do you think you could do to make your mum sit up and take notice, as in, 'Blimey, my "little girl's" suddenly turning into a woman!'? Do you think beyond yourself and your own needs like an adult does? Do you contribute to household chores without even having to be asked, because you've noticed the need like an adult? Do you say grown-up things like, 'You look knackered, shall I make you a nice cup of tea?'?. Are YOU the one to gesture at the clock and say, 'It's late, I'm off to bed'? What else could you do to show your mum you can handle the WORK of being a young adult rather than just the fun parts like a still-child? If you want her to cease treating you like you're still in Pampers, you'd be boxing clever to start (off your own bat) 'changing someone else's' in front of her. Babies do not change other babies' nappies. Right? Have kid brother? - have mighty useful tool. ;-)