Two-timing

Hi need help badly! I have been with my fiance 5 yrs. at x-mas he asked me to marry him. I said yes. We have a great conection between us.He has helped me through alot. and my family adore him and his family adore me. We decided that we would get married in 2011. But the thing is he has little of no libido. Where's im the oppisite. At first we did have a good bit of sex now im lucky if i get it once amonth and i always have to ask for it. We have talked about this and he said that he would go to the doc but he never did. I told him there is loads of other ways to pleasure me but he has no interest.He does watch porn sometimes. We don't have children. I went on a girls hols a few weeks ago and met up with these guys. One of course i got chatting to told him I was engaged. But we were both attracted to each other. The next day we took off and got on like a house on fire. He kept persisting me and i fell for it. The sex was fantastic i felt alive. we swapt no's and have been txting since. he wants to know if i'd leave my fiance but i am torn. If my fiance ever found out we'd be finished. the thing is i love my fiance but i always will feel i'd cheat on him and that's the one thing he could not take. Im not over keen on this hols guy. Just don't know should i continue with my fiance it's tearing my mind apart please help!

the fact that you cheated on your fiancé clearly demonstrates that he isn't right for you, as he doesn't offer what you are looking for in life. You have got to tell him that sex is an important part in a healthy relationship - without it, you are going to feel that the relationship is incomplete. What else is running through your mind - is it just the sex aspect that is playing on your mind?

thanks for replying. I have sat down with him and cried my eyes out I told him exactly how i feel and how important sex is. He does understand. I think alot is to do with his work stresses him out. I give him massages to try and relax him. This has happened before with an ex of mine. He did not perform and I cheated on him and I have told my partner about this. Well every relationships have there up's and downs. I know when relationships have run there course but this one is different thats why i said i would marry him. but since i've been with this other guy i've been in two minds.

hello, i was just wondering if things have become clearer for u yet? if u have any idea what u are going to do? i think if you decide to marry your partner you will have to come to terms with the fact that sex will not be a big part of the rest of your life. it is unlikely that his libido will improve and u may have to accept that sex will only be a monthly accurance. you need to decide if your relationship with your partner is worth sacracficing your needs and that aspect of your personality. you need to weigh up what means more to you, being in a sexually fulfilling relationship or the meaningful relationship you are in at the moment. it sounds like you are both very in love but will this be enough for u? i feel for you in this situation as it is such a big decision to make

thanks. I still haven't got a clear ans in my head. Im not taken this lightly. I don't want to hurt him as I love him in every other aspect of the realationship. but I do have a high sex drive and I have been so patient with him and yes I have talked till my eyes go blue but he would try for a while then revert back to the same situation. I don't know if i can trust me to stay fateful. Is there any tablets to slow me down?