Update on apology situation

Ok, not sure if this site features a post search or not but I submitted a topic a week ago regarding a female friend of mine that I had feelings for (who was going through a messy divorce, stationed in a deployable unit) who dismissed the potential of a relationship with me because I had no "confidence" (never mind the fact that I did not feel this way at all whenever we hung out, we laughed/joked with each other, had fun, ironically enough I felt like I could really be myself around her, etc - the "confidence" thing was never an issue until she actually said something about it). She mentioned coming back home to Mississippi (where I'm stationed at) to visit last weekend and it triggered a lot of trauma from that conversation where she told me I wasn't "confident". I'm in a much better place now mentally and emotionally (and am on antidepressants/seeing a therapist) and I still believed that I was owed an apology for the hurtful way in which she told me that stuff. For one, she mentioned "not being ready to date yet" (due to the divorce) but she mentioned guys she was "talking to" when we were stationed in Bahrain together last year. She also never stopped me from flirting/joking with her. I don't think those two things are consistent behaviours for somebody who is "not ready to date" yet but I digress as that isn't the MAIN problem here. I called her later on that day after I posted my last topic and expressed myself to her in a calm, rational, and understanding way. I didn't raise my voice nor did I cuss. I expressed the fact that I thought she completely dismissed me as a person AND all the fun times we had together using this whole "confidence" BS as an excuse which I thought was not fair. I mentioned that I felt hurt by the comments and that the memories of them came rushing back recently. She said she understood me, that she was happy that I was in a better place emotionally and mentally and she apologized, along with stating that the reason she said the whole "confidence" thing was about me not being comfortable with being single/alone, which I did express to her in the early stages of our friendship. But friendship involves revealing certain aspects of your emotions to the other person and to turn around and use that information to label me as "not confident" was not fair I thought. And I did express that to her too. She originally mentioned that "whenever I look in the mirror all I see is skin color" (I'm dark skinned) and that I "act like I'm not handsome" so I'm thinking that it was more a self-esteem thing rather than what she claimed it was (for the record, I believe on some days I look ok and some not so much, like a regular person, show me this mythical person who feels great about himself 24/7, please!). I didn't say anything about that last part though and just let it go. But, as she apologized and talked to me, I could sense a certain tone in her voice. It's the same kind of tone that namely females give you when you ask them (for example) 'Is everything ok?' and they say 'yes' but in a very dismissant, casual, subtly upset kind of tone. If there's any guys here who were/are married they should know what I'm talking about. Women often claim everything is ok when it really isn't but they'll refuse to tell you what's actually on their mind. Anyway, I thought nothing of this during or after the phone call. I said my goodbyes and she said to call her back later on that night because she was busy. I call her back that same night a couple hours later and I don't get an answer. No big deal I thought, maybe she just missed the call, whatever. I call her again the next day a couples times, a few hours apart and still no answer. I call again the following day (yesterday) and still no answer. She also hasn't been responded to the lone text message I sent the other day as well. Or the lone FB message I sent her on yesterday I believe. The contact was day after day but it was never went beyond more than twice in like, two hour spans each day so it wasn't too obsessive (imo). Fast forward to today and I downloaded this app that lets you call people from disposable, fake phone numbers and called her. First call missed but I got a text back from her stating "who is this" and when I called again from the fake number, she answeered, asked who this was and I announced myself. We both said what up to each other and before I could say anything else (as if I knew what to say anyway) she says she was at lunch and that she will call me back. That was about 3-4 hours ago and at this point I know I'm not getting a call but most importantly this proves that she really was avoiding me like I suspected she was. I can't really describe how betrayed and/or low I feel right now. Keep in mind that this is a person who we each shared bits of our lives with in the sense that we vented to each other while in Bahrain, she helped me out numerous times both in my personal life and in my professional life. During the situation from my last post when I made her think I was going to harm myself through a text message to her she was constantly blowing my phone up in concern for me. It's clear that we have a very solid friendship and she is somebody that I consider a very, very good friend. It's a shame that this whole thing has made her look as two faced as it does and I feel more hurt than I actually am letting on right now while typing this. I think the biggest question is, how do I move on from this? How can somebody who's been SO good to me in the past turn around and treat me like this? If I can get along with someone else as well as I did her and it DIDN'T work out completely, what's the point in even trying to be friends with anyone else, male or female (let alone be in a romantic relationship with)?