Son (9) unhappy about my partner

Hi my son is very unhappy about the relationship I am in, they fight constantly. At first they got along very well and lately its been getting pretty bad. However I myself am not very happy in the relationship. I'm not sure how to get out or what I should do? You have to understand that my son is my life and I would do anything for him. I have talked with my son and he made it very clear he wants out. Can anyone help? Am I missing something?

1. Why aren't you happy in it? Would you be were it not for these clashes between he and your mini me? 2. Why aren't you sure how? FYI, there are 50 ways to leave your lover. You know that, don't you? 3. News for you, your son should NOT be your life. Your son will leave you (quite right, too, that's the entire point of motherhood - helping them to develop into independence). Only any romantic partner of yours will be constantly by your side til death in terms of ongoing support and daily company/interaction. You cannot live your life for your son because the minute he makes his own life he will certainly not be living his for you. Would your doing anything for him include teaching him for the sake of his smooth-running adulthood to respect his elders and try to live with their perfectly qualified and rightful personal choices whether they happen or not to suit what *he* would ideally want? Your son should be your whole MOTHERLY world but your partner your whole ROMANTIC world. Learn to distinguish and to switch between or overlap those separate roles freely and flexibly. OR is this a case of son expressing your wishes on your behalf through his own acting-out? Well, you should be taking responsibility for the running of the minutae of your adult life and leaving him to make age-appropriate, selfish decisions like what hair-gel to use in order to impress the girls. You let your son do your orchestrating for you and you're setting him up to one day look back and feel used as well as ashamed. I'm not suggesting you're doing this wittingly. It's sadly all too common a divorcal fall-out syndrome... Alpha male abandons the former family home and the Beta either willingly-egotistically (- typically for that young ego-flexing age/stage) or through sense of pressuring subliminal cue, steps up to fill the gap (potentially taking it too far to actual Superman/mother-rescuer delusions). Any new Alpha entering the fold threatens his now established and premature/untoward sense of status and power, which expresses as dislike of the partner and a wish to see him gone again so as to avoid getting demoted from quasi-adult back to mere kid. In your case, the fact your son initially liked this new fella indicates either that your partner tried too hard to play father-replacement rather than older friend and mum-add-on (which makes the kid experience feelings of disloyalty towards his real dad thus resentment at the cause - the male 'usurper') or, as I say, that your kid has realised you want but can't extricate yourself unaided and, as per, is donning his Superman cape (in a not very clever way) out of love and protectiveness. There are easy remedying solutions, but first I need to know your pure and non-compromised feelings for this partner of yours. If, hypothetically, your son chose with your blessing (non-apropos to this situation, just for a change of scene) to live with his father, would you still want to reject your partner? Or is it more to do with the fact of how your partner has been getting non-impressively down to son's level during these clashes as has turned you off him (because you never wanted *two* kids)?