Should I be with him?

Ok, my patrner and I have been together for over a year and a half and we are engaged. I have been living with him for a year. At first he was so happy and made me laugh and was romantic and over all just plain perfect for six months, so I moved in with him and his parents and then a few months later he lost his job... Since this time he has gotten so bad. He is on anti depressants and sees a shrink about his anger issues. I seem to now only ever see his bad sides. His jeolousy, paranoia, depression, anger and worry. I never see any of that adorable sweet man I met what seems a lifetime ago. I seem to always be cheering him up or calming him down or humouring him or reassuring him. It has gotten to the stage where he is so emotionally high maintenance that when he goes (as I am temporarily living at my Grandad's to get some peace) I am literally pleased to have some time alone. I can't even say I miss him, I look forward to seeing him (the old him in my mind's eye) and am always dissapointed that I get the grumpy miserable him. If I didn't love him and know that he loves me it would be easy to walk away but I can't help hoping for the old him back. Is this saveable? Does anyone know why he has turned like this and if it is possible to change back?Has anyone ever known someone like this and might know a way to deal with this issue? I honestly can't imagine leaving with him but at the same time I cannot live my whole life like this....

hi tinkerbell, i feel for you in your position. i think relationships tend to have 6 months perfect then some time not so perfect then hopefully even out again. i think he has taken a hard blow loosing his job and it is hard to say but maybe that is the key to his happiness returning. i must admit i am going through something not dissimilar with my boyfriend however it is me in the reverse role. if i am anything to go by he is probably frustrated he keeps treating you badly and has a dependency on you and his family that is allowing him to stay down. if he were to reassert his independence his confidence may well return and with it the man you love. i am sorry you have to go through this. it is a question of whether you continue to support him which undoubtedly burdens you to some degree or whether you cut loose and move on with your life. it is hard to know whether this would jump start your partner or make him plummet further. if you continue on but remain unsatisfied it may only be a matter of time until someone crosses your path that appears more suitable. something he is probably fearful of knowing he is failing you. if you want it to work you need to do it together, you need to help him but not do things for him and he needs to appreciate all you are doing for him but without feeling sorrowful about his current (and hopefully passing) behaviour. it may just be a rough patch. i hope you figure it out. take care