Boyfriend trouble

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year, it will be 2 in October. I spent the night with him the other night and felt his phone vibrate next to me.It was from the girl he used to talk to before meeting me that I don't like. I got curious as to what they were talking about so I looked over the messages to what they were talking about and it kind of broke my heart to pieces to see that both agree to meet somewhere together to have sex. The good thing about it in a way I was there at his place so that there wouldn't be a way for him to sneak off to go meet her.But the way he talks about her to me calling her names and dogging her out are completely different to how he is treating her through text messages. He smiles and kisses on me like nothing he's supposedly doing behind my back isn't a problem. Am I wrong for even going through his phone in the first place? What should I do?

Going by your post, you should walk out of his life now. He doesn't deserve you. You may be wrong for snooping his phone but he is being dishonest and deceitful as well as betraying your trust. Your heart's already broken..tell him what you know, walk away and don't listen to his excuses or denials.

He was openly cheating behind your back so you are more than justified if you feel like leaving this relationship right now. You weren't wrong to check his phone and act on your suspicions. If you want to give this relationship a chance however, then you need to come out in the open and tell him that you are aware of what he has been doing. From that point on, you'll be putting the ball back in his court and basically asking him what he plans to do about it.

Really, if you feel you have to help yourself to a boyfriend's phone rather than wait to ask if you can see who the message was from and read it, you're showing you ALREADY don't trust him because you're showing you expect a refusal to comply and cooperate. Clearly you didn't know this woman back then because you felt she posed a threat. Gosh, how was THAT allowed to happen, I wonder. It sounds like he's always used her in that respect and is doing it again. Because, oh-oh-oh, isn't it FUNNY that he knew he had 'dangerous' data on his phone worthy of hiding AND could have foreseen she might text considering they were mid talks about this tryst, yet left it on the damn bed right beside you rather than turning it off and putting it out of your reach - before effectively leaving you alone with it (going to sleep). Curiouser and curiouser, said Alice... I suspect his purportedly negative feelings towards her are true, but that he wouldn't admit that to HER because then she'd immediately cease unwittingly being a great tool for making you get jealous and cling more tightly to him. No need to feel bad just because you accepted a passive-aggressive-style INVITATION to look at his phone. He could be said to have a point, though. If you're in love and only a week away from 2 years' tenure of relationship you don't tend to underplay it by calling it a year. What you did there was like saying, 'I'm thirty-ten years old'. And neither does finding what you think is evidence of imminent loss or ruination of relationship, "KIND OF" heartbreaking. It's downright devastating, no "kind of" about it. Plus, usually, the OP includes something about how wonderful that yea- sorry, TWO years has been. Etcetera. None of which you've just done. Yes, you're jealous through a sense of territorialism and female competitveness, but the fact is you either don't love him or daren't. I imagine the latter, considering he tried to make you feel insecure thus self-mistakenly keener using this other woman right from the off. Correct?

Sorry, typo: not 'didn't know this woman', didn't LIKE.