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This is my first forum and I'm just hoping to find answers. I met this guy on a website in my most desperate times and we became really close friends this whole time and we've talked every day. He helped me with many things and was there for me when nobody was and it got to the point where I'm only happy when he's around and I'm talking to him. I know it sounds bad but it's how things have become. In the past I've been hurt by "friends" just leaving in my hour of need and just leaving all together, so far he's my only friend left and he promised that he wouldn't leave. It hard to believe that when many others say the same thing, but I trust him. Recently though whenever something bad happens and he gets depressed he'll just up an leave for a few days and won't tell me anything. He's never done this before until recently. One time was because his mom cut his phone off and was kicking him out of the house, another time was because this girl kept degrading him saying that he was the worst person ever and stuff like that. During the summer he was gone for 3 months because he was depressed and those were the 3 worst months of my life, I begin to panic (I'm a very sensitive person) and I cried a lot, when he came back be apologized a lot and promised he wouldn't do it again but he has. Right now he's gone again and he's ignoring me for some reason and I'm really starting to get worried and I'm freaking out. I just hope he's okay but I don't know if he is. Don't get me wrong though, I do give him a lot of time to himself when he has homework, classes, work, and if he says he'll like to be alone. But I just don't know what to do. I want to contact him but he's not answering anything...I'm really scared if he left...should I wait or keep texting him? Or should I try something else? I'm really confused. I just really need advice from anyone. Please

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It seems as though your depending on this person a little too much, it also sounds like you never meet in person slow down. He sounds like he has a bunch of issues right now you should take a break on this guy; let him fix his issues while you fix yours. It doesn't seem as though he minds being a way for a bit maybe you should take it as sign that hes not ready for anything serious. Take your time and dont take him so serious, talk to others im sure if they see your serious they will listen.

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Thank you for the advice. When I read it I began thinking that I've been selfish and not thinking about the things he's going through. I'll try my best to leave him be until he fixes whatever is happening in his life at the moment. It does get hard because there are many times when I just want to help him but I can't. And you are right, we haven't met yet, he lives in 10 hours away from me but we have video chatted to see each other. And we've agreed not to date until we get closer because he doesn't believe in long distance relationships, so for now we've remained as close friends but I don't mind. But I'm very grateful for the advice, it really did help. :)

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No problem. .. just hope you try and help yourself too..my best

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I have been in a similar situation before. Like SABBY007 said, give him time to sort out his troubles. Meanwhile, you take time to sort out yours. And perhaps ask him to just let you know if he plans on leaving for a bit or thinks he might get disconnected for a bit.

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I'll try my best to give him time and sort out his problems and I'll also give myself time to sort out my own, thank you :) But I do wish he would answer at least once and tell me what he'd like. My mind just tends to wonder the worst possibilities out there.

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