PeoplesProblems Logo

I ended a 6 year relationship to be with my bestfriend!

Default profile image
Okay... I have never used this website before but I figure why not give it a try. Hello internet users! Okay so I have been with the same guy for the past six years. I met him freshman year of high school and we have been together since this year. I gave him everything , we basically lived together. We stayed together through me cheating, him lying and our constant fighting. Over the past year our relationship has gotten out of hand. We have both been physically and emotionally abusive towards each other. One of the other reasons why I left him was because drugs and money had become more important than me. Now this is where it gets CRAZY... While I am going throught the process of leaving my long term bf, my best friend decides to kiss me ! He basically poured out his feelings and told me he has had feelings for me for a few months. He wants to take care of me, make me laugh and be with me. One thing leads to another and we are officially together !I love him and I think that we have secretly always wanted to be together. i know iknow i jumped into the relationship but that is how important he is to me. Now the problem is he is also close friends with my ex-boyfriend, and now they are fighting over me. They have been talking about fighting each other over the internet. And all of my "friends" have abandoned me because they feel that i betrayed my exboyfriend. So I am literally left with no friends and no one to talk to. I am the one who looks like the evil cheating bitch, but they dont understand the abuse that I have endured. I am very happy with my best friend and we are going strong, and ignoring our fake friends. But I still get sad about my past relationship. I'm upset at how things ended and I really truly still love him. I am upset that he is being destructive, he is drinking and calling me horrible names. He is acting as if his life is ruined. What do I do.... Have I made a horrible mistake... I have lost all my friends..... And my ex-boyfriend thinks im the devil...

I ended a 6 year relationship to be with my bestfriend!

Default profile image
No I don't think you have made a horrible mistake. You have cheated while with him means you were not happy in the relationship. So how long will it carry on? Yes the mistake you did make is jump into a new relationship before fully healing. Also you probably have not managed to explain to your friends why your relationship wasn't working out. So from their side they are only seeing one side of it. Unfortunately when a relationship breaks both parners are rarely on the same stage of detachment. These issues come with that. May be having another deep talk with your ex might help the situation. Explain to him clearly that the love had gone out of your relationship a long time back when he changed his priority from you to drugs and money. Still you tried to make it work but didn't succeed. Tell him your current Boyfriend came into the picture much later and is in no way responsible for the current state of affairs. Stop them both from confronting each other if possible. Else it will turn into an ugly mess dragging you with it.

This thread has expired - why not start your own?

B-2