Mutually friendzoned? All help needed!

Many of you know me from the chat room, which I frequent for help with this one still-unsolved problem I have. I go by Paul here. I am sixteen years old and have been diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder, social anxiety, and abdominal migraines (extremely intense migraines but in the lower intestine). Now here goes the story, I made it a short as I could, I promise. Six years ago, at the beginning of middle school, I met someone, we'll call her Ally. Ally instantly got an intense and obsessive crush on me. I was, at the time, an extremely cynical person who had grown to distrust and fervently hate nearly all people my age because of a lifelong history of bullying and assault. I tried to distance myself from everything people my age did, the worst of which in my eyes was dating. So although I was adamant about staying single, Ally and I became very close friends. Two years later, she was getting desperate to attract my romantic attention. She began indiscriminately dating random guys in an attempt to make me jealous, which never succeeded. But towards the very end of that year, my walls began to come down, so to speak. I was less hateful, more willing to trust, and I was beginning to open up for the first time since I was very young. And I began to like her, though I was far too unsure of myself at the time to say so. Unfortunately, Ally had since started to get over me, assuring me that she was making strides in getting past her hopes of being with me someday. Then for the next two years, we both sort of sank. I started coming down with what we now know are abdominal migraines on a daily basis, and she began struggling with depression and suicidal tendencies, for reasons related to her bipolar disorder. Neither of us knew about the other, because she was almost always in treatment facilities where she couldn't reach out to anyone. But thinking about each-other kept us going, as we later found out. It even kept her alive at times where she was planning to kill herself. But all this time did was give me a chance to fall in love with her. We completely flipped sides. Two months ago, after many happy months of spending more time with her and making each-other feel so wonderful and valued, I decided to tell her that my feelings have changed, and that I like her. I had originally planned to tell her that I love her, but I got nervous and my words fell short. She told me that she sees me as a friend now, and that although I'm the most important person in the world to her, she isn't ready to be in a relationship. It might seem immature for me to say this, but everyone familiar with me knows and believes that Ally is truly the love of my life, and that I want to spend the rest of my life with her. There's good reasons to think that she might still like me a lot, but that she's still recovering from her instability. I want to be her best friend and her lover, and share my everything with her. How do I get her back? ANY advice AT ALL is deeply appreciated and will not go unnoticed. Thank you so much for your time!

Susiedq, thank you for your reply. No, she is no longer hospitalized, and we talk on a regular basis, whenever we have spare time. We see each-other most weekends, but she's been busy lately. And she's fully capable of paying attention to another person. I am thoroughly happy being her friend, and I would be her friend no matter what. And as far as commitment, I understand what you're saying, but I choose to be dedicated to her. I do not say that I love someone without meaning it in a big way. Many people tell me the same thing, but those who agree with me seem to have healthier relationships than those who advised me to look around.

You need to move out of the friend zone if you love her. You can do so with mild flirting statements, mild future together statements (said in light joking but suggesting manner). Don't go straight out and tell her you love her as yet. Keep her guessing for a while. Uncertainity will keep her thinking about you and can recover some of the lost feelings. When you start feeling that she has started getting feelings back for you, then you tell her that you love her.