Advice

Dating a woman for 8 months . Brother passed away couple months ago. Started communicating more then let's me know she's depressed.basically we love each other but gives me a note stating that she can't be what I want her to be .states that I have friend for life. Kind of confused that she was coming along well . Never pushed or prodded her . Know that there is problems with family communicating . Love her so much that she knows that I would wait for her . Need help I've been praying but feel she gas given up.

Follow your instinct, your gut feeling. If her family are not big communicators, then she won't know how to properly..hence the note. At the end of the day, she's put it in black and white about where you and her stand. One thing's certain that if she is truly yours, she will reach out to you and will come back. When she gets over her depression (only she can do this)and her grief from her brother's passing, then there's a good chance she will come back into your life but as what remains to be seen. In the meantime,and it's easy to say, but hard to do, don't tread water waiting for her, just get on with life.

Give it some time. If she needs to be alone right now, then apply the no-contact rule for a period of three weeks and then re-initiate contact and see how you get along. This should be enough time for her to have at least partially recovered from the grief -- and more importantly, to start missing your company.

For someone to feel depressed it is not ok to leave them on their own even if they want to be left alone but do give them some space though, but always remind her that youll always be there for her and that your not going anywhere. she maybe going through a rough patch but this is your time to try and encourage her to get active by going for walks or taking her places. because shes depressed shell lock herself from the world and shut everyone out and would be stuck with her thoughts and right now her thoughts is her enemy cause shes constantly thinking of the low, negative thoughts... try and do things that will stop her from THINKING...least when she gets better she can see how dedicated and committed you are to her and hopefully realize how lucky she is to have you there by her side in my own opinion for someone to feel sad and low theyll always need that someones shoulder to cry on even if they dont ask for it...but least they know theres someone there to help them when they fall