What happened?
SASQUATCH1 - Oct 11 2014 at 03:05
So im two years older than this girl and she was in one of my classes. She was very interested in what I had to say was remembering everything I said and was reluctant to get my attention, she used to give me hugs all the time and we were close. When I finally realized that maybe I have a shot with her I try making my move but ever since then shes ignored me, she has blocked me on snapchat for some reason, and started ignoring my texts, I asked one of my friends what he thought about us two and he said I'm very feely towards her which made me seem like a creep. I have a feeling she once liked me but was extremely creeped out, is there anyway that I can make something out of this relationship?
I have experienced this before and I met a girl I really liked and we were friends and I came on to quick and she shied away I think the best thing you can do is give it time and her space and eventually try to talk over the phone or in person and just tell her how you feel and apologize for coming on so suddenly
If she didn't want you to be 'feely' then why on earth did she encourage it by initiate it? Is she really so stupid and naive as to think you'd see that as platonic-only attention when to most people it's behaviour associated with someone who shares or wants something more? Since she was originally the instigator, doesn't that make HER the creep? I think you'll find it does.
Or is the truth of the matter that she's since become interested in someone else, doesn't want to be regarded by everyone as fickle/having led you on so is now trying to put the blame for her fickleness and sudden guilty conscience-avoidance tactics onto you?
I don't think you SHOULD wait to try to have anything to do with her again. That she could treat you so shoddily proves she's a chocolate teapot whether as a girlfriend OR a friend. A girl in either role would value her relationship with you too much to see such obnoxious avoidant responses as preferable to and more beneficial than simply sitting you down to gently put you straight or writing you a note or relaying through a third party a message that was KIND AND RESPECTFUL.
IMO, you and Carguy need your heads knocked together for believing or trying to convince other people that you don't think you're worthy of anything better than this sh*t treatment.
Behave and conduct yourselves in ways that demonstrate you love YOURSELVES, and likeminded people will *automatically* flock to you. Under-value yourselves or behave in ways that indicate such and you'll attract nothing but people who have some or other need for a doormat to wipe their feet on. And how you BEGIN sending out those perfectly readable signals is: when someone/s behaves that shoddily toward you, you do NOT sit there going, 'Boo-hoo, what's wrong with meeee?'. You say this: "Ugh! With friends like that who needs enemies!".