Still in love with ex

where do i begin!!! well i guess the begining huh lol. as you can read from the title im still in love with my ex husband and had been getting on with my life and im now with someone who loves me and respects me and treats me right, but have just found out my ex is still in love with me.what do i do,what can i do? my ex doesnt want to try again neither do i but knowing this new info has really messed with my head and i dont know what to do about it.i cant ignore it as he was my first love.dont get me wrong i love the guy im with now but in a different way.how can i go on in the relationship im in now and not tell him how i feel about my ex as i feel im lying to my new partner if i dont tell him.

I'm going through the same thing with my ex-boyfriend and my current boyfriend right now. I still love my ex, I always will, but sometimes when you look back on your relationship you 'idealize' things, or choose to forget the bad times. I know I could NEVER be with him again. We've been separated for almost 3 years now. My current boyfriend found the only pictures I had of him last night. He said "Can I tear them up?" and I said "Sure", but then when he did it hurt so bad I cried hysterically! I didn't realize how strongly I still felt for him! Sometimes you can't tell your heart to 'be rational' and to understand that they are ex's for reasons, and should probably stay ex's. My current bf asked me if I still loved him the reason I was crying, and I hesitated to say "No". I don't know where our relationship is going after this, it ensued a huge fight and I'm still confused and crying, but please keep these feelings to yourself for now. You may or may not ever sort them out, but don't wind up putting a great relationship in danger pondering over something that you already had a chance at.

Why does knowing he still loves you cause a problem? Surely the fact that you still love him would have caused a problem in the first place. I can't understand why 2 folks who both profess to love each other wouldn't want to be together. Are you sure you're still in love with him? Or is it just that hearing he is still in love with you has stirred up old feelings and you're reading this as 'still' being in love. If you care for the guy you're with, he deserves to know that you're in love with someone else. But be very sure that you really are still in love before you risk this new relationship.