Really need advice on this

Hi People, i just hope somebody can provide some sort of advice or see my side of a story I was with my Ex for 5 years - things at the start were great and we went on to have 2 children this is when most of the problems started, becuase i was the only bread winner i couldnt have much time off work to help out and at the time were we was living there was only my Ex's family to help out. the first big split come in 2006 - and i moved to a further town to stop at my moms, the constant stress and strains of the house were just to much - after a few months we decided to make a fresh start and move to nearer my family - we done this and everything was again ok for a few months until the arguments started.. i can honestky say i hate to argue it just makes things work .. so i left as she was calling me all sorts of things and i hadnt even done anything .. back to my moms again - this has happend now a fair few times and ive been back and forth etc Until April this Year - she told me not to come back - i left and back to my Moms - were i have been since the end of april - Ive tried in the past to get back with her but i got no answer. so ive got my head arround the Idea of moving on etc - ive sat there for a month doing nothing and just thinking about my children and my ex - and getting really upset - then i lost my job becuase of the strains it was all putting on me. I continued to be down - lucky i had my family to help me .. it's been nearly six months now and i have a new well paid job and i started dating - and met a really nice lady who i have fun with - ive been on too dates so nothing too seriuos and i dont intend on anything seriuos as my children need to come first in every instance. I sent an SMS text message to my Ex saying and asking is it all over ? - i got the responce of we are no good together, that was my thought too now my ex has found out ive been dating and she has gone off the roof, she had a bag full of tablets the other night and was threatening to take them and run away and die - this has made me feal so sick. i managed to talk her down and make sure she was ok and she safe ... i didnt promise anything or say anything like i wanted to get back together as i dont - we have been kidding our selves for years the next night - she said she wanted to talk - so i picked her up after work and we went for a chat - then she tells me she wants me back and she loves me so much - i just had to be honest - i told her ive changed and as ill still be there as a friend thats all i want to be - as i dont want my children growing up in a war zone. i explained to her that she needs to move on and get a job, ghet a life and have fun and meet new people - make life worth living ... I really like this new lady ive met and ive explained some of it to her and she just said ignore her - But i feel so guilty about everything (not dating) but My ex and the way she feels - ive told her ill be there for her to help her get a job and support her Money wise - but i just cant be anything else - im confused as she keeps texting me now and there just saying things like i love you and stuff. can anybody shed any life on this - i just want her to move on - it's not too much to ask is it ?? Totaly confused Stu Surprised(

You've already made several attempts to make things work, so why would her jealousy make things work again if you got back together and stopped having fun with a new lady who you have really connected with? Yes, the kids issue is of great concern, and for now it is good that you offer to support your ex through difficult times. In the long term, any future woman you are with will want you to pull away from your ex so that she gets yourfull attention. This is likely to add additional pressure to your situation, then there are also arrangements with the kids to consider. Do what you think is right for you - don't let your emotions wreck your life - you've already seen the outcome of having your head screwed up, losing your job etc, so you can see how important your own wellbeing is. Glad you have such a supportive family - this must really help.