Ex boyfriend filmed me during sex now he won't get rid of vids and its causing probs with new partner

My ex boyfriend filmed him and me 'at it', and now he won't get rid of the vids. He has not threatened to show them to anyone, but I wouldn't put it past him. I recently got together with the man I should have married years ago, and because I wanted no secrets between us, I told him about what my ex and me did. He said that the past was the past, but now I havent heard from him in over 48hours...very unlike him. I don't know what to think. His phone is off (highly unusual) and there is no answer from his landline. Should I call him at his mothers? I know he will be there later...or should I just leave it and hope he calls me? Am I being paranoid?

You need to sort out these photos with your ex so you can feel free of this burden. If your ex is in another relationship he has probably already destroyed these photos as he would\'nt want his partner to see them. If he is going to use them as blackmail there can be serious consequences. If your ex boyfriend has a problem with this when you have been honest it may not be worth continuing with the relationship, as he may never feel completely comfortable with you. You have every right to call him at his mothers, if he has a problem, he should at least have respect to call and tell you. You may still be carrying guilt from these photos and be a little paronoid. We all do silly things in our past that we regret but we learn from it and move on. He may need a little time out and that\'s ok. You are the only one who knows your boyfriend and can make the final decision on what to do.