Postponing?

hi im new here me and my fiance are due to get married on the 28th november 2009 but my fiance has just had his hours cut and we are only just managing to get by with the run of the house, never mind make the rest of the payments up for the dress, etc. he's getting really stressed out about it and has took on another job where he is working ridiculous overtime, i sat him down and suggested we postpone it for a bit as he is getting really stressed about everything and i want us to have a relaxed xmas. he just got really upset and said its all planned now, etc how are we suppose to tell the vicar and the venue holder that we are going to postpone it, i said i dont think they will have a problem with it as we are only postponing it not cancelling it all together. am i being unreasonable? and how can i get him round to my way of thinking? thankyou

I read your problem a few days ago, and had a think about it, but I really don't know what you are going to do. What I was considering however, is that if you postpone the wedding, then your guests could be really let down and there is obviously the risk of losing deposits etc. I think you are best discussing it with your family to see if they could help, and if you are really wanting to keep things on track, and can't afford it, then maybe you should consider taking out a loan to cover the difference - this might work out cheaper than losing money on deposits anyway. Other options could be scaling down the wedding if you haven't yet sent out your invites (ie. invite people down to a certain level in your family and friends hierarchy) and consider not inviting any children under a certain age. Hope you come to some resolution - whatever your decision, make sure it is one you both agree on, otherwise it could really put too much strain on your relationship and turn the whole thing sour.